Did you know the difference before watching this video?
do I look cool yet so what’s up you guys
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my name is Sam welcome back to my
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channel for those of you that don’t know
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I’m female to male transgender I’ve been
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on testosterone almost four years and
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post-op for Top surgery almost three
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years it’s pretty crazy
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today I wanted to talk about dysphoria
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and dysmorphia kind of the difference
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between the two because a lot of people
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think that they are the same thing what
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they aren’t yeah dysphoria is a huge
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thing within the transgender community
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it affects all of us and almost anyone
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outside of the transgender community
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unless they know someone oh they’re just
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very well educated don’t know what it is
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so when something affects so many people
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so hugely in a very negative way I think
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it’s really important to talk about so
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we can communicate a little bit more
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effectively with more compassion respect
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understanding everything good like that
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all right
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so dysphoria is a state of unease or
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generalized dissatisfaction so that’s
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the umbrella term of like austoria
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whatever it just means like discomfort
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right gender dysphoria is what affects
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us lovely trans people the distress of
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personal experiences as a result of
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their assigned sex efforts not matching
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with their gender identity so this can
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be a physical thing it can be a
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non-physical thing the physical side of
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it is like you know the body parts not
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matching how they identify right that’s
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kind of what we hear about most however
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it doesn’t have to be that it’s a
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discomfort of being viewed and treated
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as an agender you don’t identify as so I
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can come with societal stuff to of like
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how people interact with you how you’re
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treated how you view even the physical
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stuff can be invisible it doesn’t have
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to be something the general public can
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see I used to have a very small chest
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no one knew I’ve even had it I passed as
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a guy before transitioning luckily but
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it was still there I felt uncomfortable
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super dysphoric about it you don’t see
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people’s genitals you know so it doesn’t
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have to be visible for it to be valid
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now dysmorphia which is not the same
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thing and it’s very different is a
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actual disorder so it’s a body
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dysmorphic disorder BDD that’s
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essentially a disorder when someone has
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what we would see as the general public
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a very insignificant flaw but all they
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see is like it’s all-consuming
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the disorder kind of makes it seem a lot
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larger of a deal than it is so when they
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look in the mirror it is a huge thing
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that they will like obsess over you like
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interrupt their daily
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so the difference between the two I
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actually found this article that this
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one person described it just so well
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this morphia involves significant
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misperception of one’s own body for
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example someone can have a tiny mole
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which others can barely notice without
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the aid of magnification yet when they
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look in the mirror they see instantly as
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protestingly large and ugly and obvious
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and fear everyone else sees them the
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same way whereas a transgender person is
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generally fully and very often painfully
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aware of the reality of their own body
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it is far more of an acute awareness of
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both physical aspects of our own bodies
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along with the way others actually see
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interact with us that is out of line
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with our innate sense of ourselves and
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our genders so that these things often
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simply feel very wrong the very
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important contrast here is that there is
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no misperception of our own bodies
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involved nor it is anything about the
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way we experience others reacting to us
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either before or after transition
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imaginary or otherwise blown out of
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proportion
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mic drop that person was genius they
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just described us so well so that’s the
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difference between dysphoria and
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dysmorphia I hope that makes it more
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clear I would say me personally I
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definitely probably have both
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however they are mutually exclusive
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meaning one does not equal the other one
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person can be just Fork without having
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to sum morphia and another person who
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have dysmorphia without feeling
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dysphoric they don’t equal each other
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however people can have both my
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dysphoria is really anything that makes
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me feel feminine or look feminine like
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slight PTSD from having a feminine body
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so sometimes I still
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you know worried about things even
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though they’ve shifted and stuff
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dysmorphia is how my brain maybe
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obsesses over it and sees it as much
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larger but the discomfort I feel from
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having maybe these physical aspects of
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my body that are slightly more feminine
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that’s dysphoria I actually didn’t even
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know the difference between the two like
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had someone come up to me and asked me
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the difference I would not have been
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able to verbalize it I knew there was a
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difference I didn’t know exactly how so
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we’re all learning through this thing no
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big deal it’s cool let’s learn together
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yeah yeah okay I hate that I just did
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that I hope you guys have a great day
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I’ll be back next week with another
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video yeah I think that’s it thanks for
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watching you guys I’ll see you the night
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there adios
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shout out to Josh okay bye shout out to
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Josh those sunglasses were here so
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thanks buddy
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you look like a fool
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