Marriage,” it is an eight-letter word having the purest significance in the entire world. Marriage is the union of two souls, two people, two families and a promise of staying beside each other for a lifetime. It is one of the greatest things that God has given humans, but nowadays, a lot of marriages are failing and ending up in divorces. In this era of modernization, a marriage failing has almost become incredibly common.
With over 2 million divorces occurring throughout the world every year, the popularity of separation and annulment is practically second nature. The magazines and papers are littered with great marriages or relationships that are going horribly wrong, earlier it would have become a scandal, but nowadays it is just accepted as the norm.
What are the reasons behind marriage failures?
Why do two people who promise to spend their lives together end up leaving? Many people say emotional differences, physical compatibility, infidelity, infertility, family issues and the list goes on. Let’s have a look at some of the significant reasons couple drift apart and end up in divorce?
There was a traditional saying, “Pamper a man’s self-respect and take care of female emotions.” For the times, it meant for a happy and stable relationship, it is important to pamper your man’s self-respect and make your women happy by keeping a check on her emotional needs. But, with advancements in lifestyles, people are becoming ego-centric, selfish and rude leading to conflicts and divorce. Men and women are becoming incapable of handling each other’s emotions, and the ego is killing the relationships.
In this world of Digitalization, the internet has done wonders for the economy. Nowadays, it is easy to connect, to handle work, to compete and communicate; all you need is to make a few clicks. But, do you know the internet is causing divorces as well? How? The usage of internet is increasing day by day; social media is the first thing a person checks in the morning and the last thing before sleeping. This virtual world of technology is the main reason behind distances. People prefer using their Smartphones, updating on social media instead of talking to the person sitting next to them. The illusion created by the internet is creating problems, distances and resentments among couples which in turn make marriages fail.
With developing the economy, the demands, lifestyle preferences, and standards are sky-rocketing. Gone are the days when a person used to feel satisfied by fulfilling their basic needs, now is the time to show-off and set a standard. But, what about the time when financial issues arise? The economy is ever-changing and dynamic, one day you are rich, and the next day you might have trouble. When financial issues arise, it creates tension and anxiety directly affecting personal and sexual life in a relationship.
To grow a marriage into a happy one, it requires time and effort. But, finding time from your daily chores and keeping the spark alive is the real challenge. This is why marriages end up in divorces, “we” become “you” and “me,” priorities change and no time to spend with each other. Lack of time management skills kills the spark alive, bring boredom in relationship and happiness vanishes.
Fantasies over Reality:
Most marriages fail due to the unrealistic expectations and fantasies. Movies play a vital role in this part; a couple tends to expect something superficial in a relationship while watching a movie. But, when the actual result is different from the desired effect causes disappointments, resentments, regrets, and fights. Constant frustration leads to aggression and compassion, love and attachment tend to die. It is essential to understand that the fantasy world is a myth and learn to accept the reality to save the marriage.
In the world where nothing lasts, marriages are going wrong, take the lead, and come out of all the myths to save your relationship from getting toxic.
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