5 Signs Your Situationship Will Become a Relationship Soon

“Baby, I know we’re great together, but that’s why I want to keep things as they are. Why change into a commitment when we’re so happy already?”

Throw the first rock if you’ve never heard this bullsh*t before.

You situationship is great. You have a unique chemistry, enjoy spending time together, and he treats you like a queen.

Except he won’t commit.

This situationship looks promising, but it’s extremely dangerous. Before you know it, you’ve spent years on a man who never loved you enough to start a relationship. But here’s what makes it worse.

Relationships are either yes or no.

Every second you spend with the wrong man is a second you’re not looking for the right one. Stop wasting time with situationships that don’t give you what you deserve. Here are the signs he’s ready to commit to you:

1. He has the right lifestyle.

You may think commitment is only about your relationship. But it’s way more complex than that.

Commitment is about your priorities.

Who do you think is more likely to commit: a man who just started University and loves to party or a man who already has an established career and enjoys a comfortable life?

What dictates when a man will settle down is his lifestyle.

You’ll know when his lifestyle fits a serious relationship. You’ll notice the places he goes, the company he chooses, his financial decisions, and how he treats you.

Watch what he chooses again and again, and you’ll know what he wants.

2. He creates a tangible picture.

Relationships take a colossal amount of planning. You have to plan your financial life, where you’ll live, and how many children you want. You even have to plan the daily tasks, like what you’ll have for dinner.

You’ll know a man is serious about you when he includes you in his plans.

He has a crystal-clear picture of what he wants and is not afraid to tell you because you’re in this picture.

Now you’ll say, “But he still doesn’t know what he wants from life; that’s not a crime!” You’re right: that’s not a crime. And that also doesn’t make him a bad person.

My question is: do you want a relationship with a man who can’t offer you stability in his decisions?

3. He chooses his words right.

How do nice people act when their partner starts playing games? They run as fast as the speed of light.

When you’re serious about your partner, you’d never play games. You’d do everything in your power to keep them around.

That’s why when a man likes you, he’s fully transparent.

When he says, “I’m okay,” he means that. There’s no double meaning, no trap, and no guessing. The communication is simple and genuine. You don’t feel like Sherlock Holmes trying to solve a riddle.

You’ll know he wants to get serious by how he communicates with you.

4. He’s proud of you.

When was the last time you introduced a partner to your family?

It doesn’t take a genius to guess you felt quite serious about that partner. When you’re committed to your partner, you want to share your life with them.

Guess what? Your family and friends are a great part of your life.

When he introduces you to the people he loves, that’s a clear sign he takes your relationship seriously. He’s proud to show you to the world and even on social media.

Don’t get me wrong: You don’t have to meet everybody in his life. But how can you be serious when you don’t even know the most important people in his life?

5. He shared his non-negotiables.

You might not think about it, but every person has things they should not negotiate. These non-negotiables can make or break relationships.

Imagine your greatest dream is to have children. You finally meet your perfect match, and you truly love each other. Except he doesn’t want kids. Now, you could give up on your dream. But that would take a devastating toll on your relationship.

What are you not willing to give up for your relationship?

When he mentions his non-negotiables, it’s a strong sign that he wants to get serious. Why else would he bother to have such an uncomfortable conversation?

Bonus: You’ll feel it.

Deep down, you always know what the other person wants. You may not want to acknowledge it, but you know it.

You notice how he treats you, what he talks about, and what he prioritizes. These subtle actions seem small, but they add up to paint a bigger picture. People are extremely transparent with their actions. When a man wants a serious relationship with you, he’ll make sure you know it.

You don’t need a crystal ball to understand people. You just need to use your gut feeling.

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The one thing you need to figure out from your situationship is: do you want the same things?

Yet, it’s so easy to overlook that question. You spend years trying to figure out what you want and collecting clues to find out what the other party wants.

When you have clarity of what you want, it becomes easy to take action (even if that means you have to leave them). So take the hard path and do your self-knowledge work.

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