
Isn’t that one of the things you sincerely wanted in life? Being in a relationship that’s so satisfying and feels like you and your partner we’re meant for each other.
When you don’t feel a firm assurance that you aren’t in a or yet lousy relationship, you’ll be vulnerable to drowning in a pool of anxiety, fear, doubts, and stress.
Because we all know how painful it is to put in the necessary work and efforts to build a committed relationship only to be disappointed because the relationship wasn’t supposed to be in the first place.
That’s why we all cringe at the thought of falling for the wrong person, let alone being stuck in an unhappy and painful relationship with the bad person.
Hence, it’s relatively easy to keep late nights worrying or wondering if they are in the right relationship shortly after securing one.
And that’s why I’ve compiled this list of five things you’ll most likely notice if you’re in the right relationship.
1. You’ll be comfortable showing your TRUE selves to each other
Sometimes it takes longer to develop the level of comfort and trust needed to fully open up to someone Because everyone wants to safeguard their heart and ensure that it goes to the right person.
However, that doesn’t imply that you should be in a relationship where you both struggle to be yourself.
And you’re considered to be in an unhealthy relationship if you find it challenging to be your genuine self or both you and your partner never show each other the most uncensored version of selves in your relationship.
But if you and your partner feel free to be your best and worst selves without fear of criticism, you are likely in the right relationship.
2 . You don’t try to change each other.
No relationship will be healthy or romantic if one’s partner is bent on building, shaping, and molding the other into the ideal partner because they failed to find someone who fits the idea of a perfect mate they wrote in the back of their mind.
Because the truth is, trying to change someone in any way is akin to attempting to impose your ideal on them. Other times, you attempt to charge your made-up fairy tale ideal of a “perfect partner” on them.
And one of the most severe issues with something like this is that a relationship based on one person consistently trying to shape the other is almost certainly doomed to fail. And will cause great pain to the person on the receiving end.
That is why a relationship where both partners love each other for who they’re without trying to change or impose will, is considered best, if not one of the best.
So if you and your partner love each other without trying to change or impose will, you’re in the right relationship.
3. You fight pretty.
The ability of a couple to fight pretty is what sets them off from the crowd.
That’s why it’s impossible to enjoy a relationship where fights or arguments have more positive than negative impacts.
But if you or you are bent on winning arguments and being right is miles away from a way to fight healthily and somewhat because fighting moderately and healthily is all about being considerate of each other’s feelings and needs.
So you’re in the right relationship if you and your partner fight fairly and healthily in a way that isn’t selfish but considerate of each other’s needs and feelings.
4. You both are putting in consistent effort for each other.
Instead of everything just happening, it seems more like you and your partner are putting in consistent effort to make your relationship work out so well.
You understand that for a relationship to last or stand the test of time, you and your partner must be willing to put forth consistent effort to make it work.
You understand that when you decide to stay in a relationship, you must make this decision not to allow your partner to feel cheated, overlooked, or undervalued.
You’re in the right relationship because you understand that a relationship goes far beyond mutual feelings and that both partners must put forth the effort to make it healthy.
5. You are genuinely proud to be with each other
You’re glad they chose you as well as them.
The joy of being around someone you genuinely love and who loves you is not comparable.
That’s why whenever they achieve a thing, you genuinely feel happy for them. Again, they’re always proud of you for being who they are.
So you’re in the right relationship when you and your partner respect each other and are proud to have each other.
And the truth is, it’s not worth your time to be with someone who isn’t proud to have you or who you’re not pleased to have.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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