Just being there for them is a pretty good start.
1. If they bail on plans, try not to hold it over their head for too long. Chances are they’re beating themselves up enough for the both of you.
2. Don’t throw around terms like “I’m going to have a panic attack” in a cavalier way.
Saying things like “I’m going to have a panic attack” or “I’m so depressed” can make someone feel like their feelings aren’t serious or valid.
3. Sure, sometimes it’s funny how “awkward” they are, but if they’re already stressing over something they did, try not to add onto it.
Like if they said “Thank you” when the server asked how they were — try to let it slide. You don’t need to tip-toe around them, but be mindful that it’s hard enough to let those awkward moments go without your reminder.
4. Be aware that they will always have the sneaking suspicion that you/everyone hates them.
So every now and then, it doesn’t hurt to tell them you don’t.