I don’t intend this article to help you to categorize people as good or as bad once you read it, rather have a glimpse of someone without putting too much time into getting to know them.
One thing I want to clarify is that no matter what answers you get after asking this stuff to new strangers, you will interpret them through the filters in your mind meaning that your perception of them can differ from someone else’s.
That’s why I highly recommend reading these with an open mind and not judging anyone as superior or inferior to others.
1. The Way They Choose To Spend Their Free Time
There is a saying like “show me your friends, I will tell you who you are” or something like this. However, I want to add to this: Tell me your hobbies and I will tell you what kind of person you exactly are.
Now it might sound a little bit harsh and straightforward yet I believe in this world, where we are blessed with free will, the most important thing is to decide what to do with our spare time. Spare time is the period where we don’t do anything to survive such as eating, sleeping, working, taking a shower, cooking, and so on.
The rest of the day is totally in control of us, so we get to opt for the things we are most passionate about. If you ask a person how they prefer to spend their leisure time, you will get a chance to understand their passions and interests in life which are among the most important things when discovering others.
When it comes to hobbies I don’t mean you can deeply analyze someone’s personality by them only, but you might get an insight about that person based on the way they treat their free time and what they choose to do with it.
2. What Kind Of Books They Prefer To Read
Before dwelling into deep convos, first, you might want to ask about their interests when choosing a book to read. Almost everyone reads books and there is an endless variety of books out there. No human life can be enough to read everything and anything.
But we do choose what to read and we do it based on what we think aligns with our goals and goals do actually say a lot about a person and might reveal our deep sides.
Don’t hold yourself back from asking people what genre they are into and why? They might have surprising answers you never expected and they might even share things about themselves that cannot be shared on other topics.
3. Their Sleep Regime
Being an early bird or a night owl can have some psychological explanations as well as their routines.
However, being either of them or trying to be so is kind of related to the way we want to live our lives. Even if you can’t get the whole picture of a person by the hours they sleep, you can at least have a chance to ask bout the way they spend their nights and mornings.
Bear in mind that it is not easy for everyone to share how they spend their days from the first meeting, so if they want to keep things private, nothing but respect is required.
4. Their Choices Of Colours
Color psychology is not new to anyone. The colors that we prefer to wear might have subtle meanings. We might not be aware of them or why we love a certain color but someone who knows them can tell one or two things about us.
Our favorite colors change from time to time depending on different factors and different stages of life that we are at. The causes can be our attitudes towards life, our moods, our choices in various things, and so on.
You might wonder how can someone’s favorite color help me to understand them? Well maybe not to understand them but to have a closer look. The person with a favorite color of black and the person with that of white will surely differ in their approaches to things at the least and to life at the most.
One can have them both as their loving colors and it can also be another clue.
5. Their Behaviors Towards Others
Behaviors tell a lot unquestionably. Especially the behaviors towards those who cannot help you or pay you anything in return or to someone who is serving you.
Watch out for the person’s choice of words, reactions, or gestures around others. These little things might save you from breakups or unnecessary troubles that boost toxicity in relationships.
6. The way they treat street animals
This is sort of related to the previous one, however, it is also possible to encounter people who are kind and gentle with humans but not with animals. This might indicate their intolerance to our furry friends which can be the biggest turn-off for some people out there.
The presence of love towards street animals is also underestimated among people as they might not even consider it as a positive trait at all while, at the same time, there are a number of people who would not provide water or food to a starving dog or cat even if they are able to do so.
Keeping these things in mind, one can benefit from this information about who they are talking to and decide whether they should prolong the conversation or not.
I am also aware that these are not all the factors that can potentially create the flawless image of the person as there are several of them. But you can easily understand whether, with this person, you can build friendship, relationship, business partnership, etc. without spending so much time on it.
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Previously Published on medium
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