A lot of people lack emotional intelligence and understanding of situations. And although many believe that they have their shit together when it comes to emotional intelligence, how they behave in certain situations can tell you otherwise.
Listen, we’re all working on progress and rather than belittling someone for their wrong actions, let’s look at ways we can help people become better 1% each day.
Here are 7 scenarios that can help you save friendships/relationships and also have better control over your emotions if you do just one thing — stay silent!
If You Don’t Know The Full Story
The last thing you want to be doing is giving your 2 cents when you don’t know the full story. You can give your opinion and it can come to bite you back in the bum because you failed to do your due diligence of knowing the ins and outs or just simply keeping quiet.
It’s not everything you need to have an opinion on — especially if you don’t know the full story.
When You Feel Too Emotional
This is where emotional intelligence comes in. There is not one person on this earth who can say a conversation where they were too emotional went well or how they expected it. It’s unfortunate but others are responsible for their feelings, not yours.
Therefore you have to determine when you need to leave a situation in silence or get it off your chest!
In The Heat of Anger
Same as above, this will never end well. In the heat of the moment when you’re angry, people tend to say things that they regret. And sometimes these words are irreversible and can cost your friendships and relationships.
It’s better to walk away till you’ve calmed down.
If Your Words Are Offensive
You will end up eating your words when you see the person walk out of your life because you were disrespectful. And honestly, you can’t be mad at anybody else but yourself!
Keep offensive words and statements to yourself!
If Your Words Can Destroy Friendship
If you ask many people about why their friendships ended, the majority of them will tell you it is because person X said this and that. Words hold value and people keep it close to their hearts.
Be mindful of what you say to people because it can destroy your relationship with that person in a heartbeat.
If You Can’t Talk Without Yelling
Listen, nobody is listening to somebody who is yelling. They are blocking you out because all they hear is noise and they start to look at you like a madman/woman. Don’t be this person! If you know you can’t control your anger and you’re about to yell — walk away from the situation and come back when you’ve cooled down.
Speak to people like they are humans!
If Your Silence Can Save Bonds
Your opinion is not always required — although some believe otherwise. If you know you vocalizing your opinion or emotions can cause problems or break relationships or friendships — do us all a favor and just keep quiet.
We’ve all been that person where we have stated our opinion and people still do what they want to do at the end of the day.
There’s advice and there’s harsh statements.
Keeping Quiet
Use these 7 scenarios in your everyday life and you will see how the challenges and problems you face will drastically decrease.
We all want peace — not problems!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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