It seems to be no matter where I go; I attract someone. When telling my friends about falling in love in a mental clinic and awaiting their shocked replies, all they responded with is, “of course you did!”.
It seems to be that no matter where I go in the world, I attract someone to fall in love with me. From India to the inside of a mental clinic in Germany, I have learnt some lessons to share with you to attract people to fall in love with you. So here are seven tips to attract your true love anywhere.
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Be open and friendly.
The first and foremost trick to attracting your true love anywhere is to be open and friendly. Most of the time, we are scared to be who we are and judge a person before we interpret ourselves on how to act towards them. But what is the point?
Our true nature is to be kind and considerate. It lies within us all. Look at kids — they talk to anyone with curiosity and kindness, and everyone likes them because of that true nature. Why have we changed? Well, firstly, because bad people exist, I know, but still, I don’t think there’s anything that kindness can’t cure.
For example, there was a sour man during my stay in the clinic. He burped, he shouted, he strolled around as if he owned the place (he was the longest staying patient, so he did rule the roost!). One day, he insulted me.
No, not physically, but emotionally. He told me about this cartoon and reminded him of one of the characters because of my long nose. My boyfriend stuck up for me and said he liked my nose while I responded with a laugh. It wasn’t an evil laugh either. I laughed because I know these things don’t hurt me any more — I been there in high school and am now ok with who I am!
Anyway, the more I listened to the nonsense this guy rambled sometimes and gave him space to be him, the more he started to like me too. He offered me his birthday chocolates (which I politely declined), and it shocked me that he even did so. You see — kindness cures even the most bitter people.
Are you kind to everyone you meet?
Be wise
I love this quote because it’s so true. We must be wise with who we hang around because it’s the people we choose who we become.
In a way, if you think about it, the people around you become your energy, so if you choose wisely, then you get good energy rather than if you choose unwisely you may become more down, for example.
In the clinic, I didn’t have much choice. There were around 20 people there, and everyone seemed to be struggling somehow (I mean, of course, it is a clinic, after all). I still was wise with my decision to befriend a guy who became my boyfriend. He is kind, considerate and caring (of which he doesn’t realise!), and I loved spending time with him.
Unfortunately, he is quite negative. But I figured out ways to get him out of his hole and into the bright days we call life.
I became wise with who I spend time with a while back — noticing that the important people matter the most and that I want to feel loved and uplifted rather than down and depressed. I chose my guy wisely, but it wasn’t on purpose — we just attracted one another’s vibes.
How do you attract another vibe?
Be courageous
We can miss connections if we are not courageous enough at times. This can happen quite a lot. We see someone; we get nervous, then we run away. Why?
There is nothing to be scared about. I learnt this a long time ago through my dear mother. She said to me, “Who cares what people think when all you have is now?”. She is right. All we have is now.
So if you miss an opportunity to talk to someone, then it’s gone.
Like the wind, people come, people go. So when I saw this guy for the first time in the clinic, I decided to sit next to him despite my heart rate beating mega fast. I did it because I was curious about him and wanted to get to know him. I am also sure if I hadn’t made the first move, he wouldn’t have.
The same thing happened in India. When being on an internship with a children’s charity, I saw a guy with a camera in the classroom. At the end of the class, I introduced myself to him and then he asked me out for a coffee… the rest is history!
Be in the moment
As humans, we struggle with this. In other words, mindfulness takes time to practice fully. I practice this daily to navigate my feelings and find harmony in the present moment.
When attracting your true love anywhere, you must be present. Present in the moment, present in yourself. When I first fell in love back when I was 16, I remember the feeling of being so present with this person that I’d never had before.
It was a feeling of pure harmony with oneself and the other person you were with. All I wanted to do was be with him because it would take me away from any other pressures.
Do you permit yourself to be completely there with a special person or someone you like? They will be able to tell, too, so attempt to stay present and pure in your intentions.
Give without receiving
This point is inspired by a comment left in my article about having to deal with ignorance in a long-distance relationship.
Thanks to Shikhar Chaudhary and Vishnu*s Virtues, the true meaning of love came out for me in both comments. If you want to attract love from anywhere, you have to be ready to give.
This doesn’t mean that you will give and give with intention, but that rather, it will come from the heart. When you get to know someone, all you want to do is be liked back by them, so giving is our natural state without wanting anything back but the love you deserve.
This is a bit tricky for me. My boyfriend is currently suffering from manic depression, so I have to get used to having no contact with him because he is feeling bad. I handle this by honing in on awareness and understanding of how he feels instead of making it all about me.
I make him realise I am here for him and will be whenever he is ready. I learn to give without the wanting or yearning to receive anything back because I do it out of pure love.
Don’t get caught up in being mad.
In this context, I don’t mean mad in the way Lewis Carroll meant it in Alice in Wonderland. By all means, be mad and attract your vibe wherever you go! Because the people who will be made with you are the ones, you have to hold tight to.
In other news, don’t get caught up in being mad. This comes back to living in the present moment as much as possible. When attracting your true love, you may get angry because they don’t notice you or they won’t speak to you. Likely has it; that person may not be for you.
It would help if YOu didn’t have to put yourself on the line or put more effort into a relationship to be noticed — it should all be about balance. I know this because in my last relationship, when we got angry, we would talk about it and then resolve it.
If the madness were around us, then we would be mindful of it and come to terms with it rather than leave it and let it chew us up.
When attracting your true love, being open and honest is key so that the madness can be set free.
Be yourself!
Last but definitely not least is to be yourself! Remember, the people who matter are the ones that will accept you for who you are.
When attracting your true love anywhere, you want to be yourself. I am never afraid to be myself these days because I know the people who like me will stick around, and those who don’t can go quite frankly.
For example, I have an awful habit of spitting after I smoke (I can’t help it!) and burp when I drink fizzy drinks (I’m not used to it still — I get gassy!). There’s no need to judge; my name is Grossmann (get it? good!).
Anyway, these habits I have are quite horrible, but I have learnt to live with them and show them to people I like straight away, so they accept me for who I am. My guy at the clinic, strangely enough, loves the way I spit and burp. It is the small things that you show about yourself that will lure people into your vibe.
In conclusion
The seven tips to attract your true love anywhere are:
- Be yourself in all your weirdness and wackiness!
- Don’t get caught up in being mad and live in the moment
- Give without receiving
- Be in the moment as much as you can
- Be courageous and go for it!
- Be wise
- Be kind
Before you go
Thanks for being here.❤
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This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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