7 Undeniable Signs That He Genuinely Loves You

“Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.” — Mother Teresa

“Lizzie, I just had the best date ever! This is the man I am finally gonna marry. He ticks all my boxes. He is the man of my dreams!” my friend Kara screamed excitedly down the phone line.

I rolled my eyes and said, “Yeah, sure, I can’t wait to hear all about him.”

My skepticism came from a place of similar past experiences with my friend, Kara. I am so glad I was wrong this time, and she had indeed found a person that was all hers.

You see Kara always felt like she was unlucky in love, and all her friends kind of agreed with that sentiment.

She had a rare knack of attracting super hot guys that became abusive down the line and battered her self-esteem. She is such a sweet loving girl, and we were all baffled. She wore her heart on a sleeve and fell in love so easily but struggled for so long with recovery after a break up.

But just as soon as she would feel a little better, she would call to tell you about the new love of her life. It had become a vicious cycle.

That is until she met and fell in love with Tom.

Before Tom, she was in a multitude of relationships that always left her feeling insecure and beaten down. She felt like even when the guys would say they love her, she could not trust that it was true.

I met up with her recently because I wanted to know what was so different about Tom.

How did she know that he genuinely loved her?

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“I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I will tomorrow.” Leo Christopher

There is a reason why love features as a central topic in so many stories throughout the centuries of human history. It is central to many bestseller novels, movies, and songs.

Many times, it is depicted with honesty. Love is not always wonderful. In real life, it can be frustrating, unpredictable, and sometimes, even painful.

Kara shared that she knew this. And with Tom, it offered more rewards than pain. She knew they both had to dedicate effort and be willing to accept that some challenges would be a part of their journey.

Early on in their relationship, she felt that he was also willing to work with her to nurture the first stirrings of their attraction, and feed those early feelings to help strengthen themselves as a couple to bear any stressors to come.

People often say you’ll just know when someone loves you.

Kara said she used to envy people who said that but now that she found Tom, she knows it to be true. She emphasizes that it might not show up in the extravagant fairytale ways it is displayed by media, but in your soul, you will know.

And if you think you know but need a few telltale signs to confirm your beliefs, you are in luck because Kara shared her top signs with me. I hope you will find them useful.

Here are 7 Undeniable Signs That He Genuinely Loves You

1. He tells you he loves you

“I love you for all that you are, all that you have been, and all that you will be.” — Unknown

Saying “I love you” does not come easily to everyone.

For my partner who grew up in a household where love was expressed through actions and never through words, we have come a long way from him not knowing how to express his love verbally.

But he would tell me he loved me in other ways — through his actions.

Kara is lucky that Tom was not shy about saying the three little words she longed to hear early on in their relationship. The first time he told her he loved her, he emphasized that he had not said that because he wanted to hear it back. He said so to express his emotions.

He told her she did not have to say it back unless and until she felt overwhelmed by that emotion in her heart that it had to spill over in words. There was no pressure to say something she did not mean.

It took her another 3 months of dating him before she started to feel the flutterings of love tugging at her heartstrings. And another month before she could tell him how she felt.

He was willing to wait for however long it took.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he tells you so through his words and actions.

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2. He listens to you and pays attention to what you have to say

“Listening is an act of love. When you listen to people, you are communicating non-verbally that they are important to you.” — Jim George

A guy who genuinely loves you will take an active interest in the details of your life.

He will listen actively by asking questions and waiting his turn to share instead of immediately diverting the conversation toward his own experiences.

Kara said that she gets the sense that Tom really cares. Unlike her past relationships, she never feels brushed off with a distracted “Uh huh” or “Wow, that sucks.”

When a guy genuinely loves you, while he may not hear or remember each word you say, he will generally have a pretty solid awareness of the things that matter most: your likes and dislikes, hopes and fears, friendships and family relationships, and so on.

He will acknowledge the bad and the good. When you bring up concerns or personal problems, he will consider your feelings instead of ignoring you or trying to minimize your distress.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he listens to you and pays attention to what you have to say.

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3. He remembers the important things about you, like your birthday or favorite foods

“The details are details. They make the product. The connections, the connections, the connections. It will in the end be these details that give the product its life.” — Charles Eames

Love is in the details as I elaborated in this article.

Little gestures can make a big impact on our relationships.

To make the most of our relationships, we don’t need to radically transform the way we live. All we need to do is pay attention to the details — the small moments and thoughtful gestures that bring us closer together.

For Kara, Tom loves her in the details. He remembers specific things about their conversations, learned her past, inspires her for the future she envisioned, celebrates and gifts her on special days, takes her to her favorite places, buys her cute little things, among other sweet gestures.

He remembers the small details about her and acts upon them with love.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he remembers important things about you.

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4. He’s always happy to see you when you meet up, even if he’s had a bad day

“You are the reason why my world is at peace. You are my happiness.” — Anonymous

One of the biggest signs that he is genuinely in love with you is how he acts around you, and the emotions you evoke in him.

Does seeing you brighten up his day and make him happy — even if he’s had an awful day? A guy who genuinely loves his girl will still be happy to see her even if he’s having a terrible, awful day. In most cases, seeing helps him light up.

One of the ways that we support the people we love is that we stand in their corner and stick by their side. If he gets upset when you’re upset — and is upset on your behalf, it means that he genuinely cares about how you’re doing, and he wants to make sure you’re happy.

He’ll want to mirror your emotions and empathize with you, so that he can help you with whatever’s bothering you and work towards being happy again. That’s genuine love.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he is always happy to see you when you meet up, even if he’s had a bad day

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5. He makes an effort to spend time with you, even if it’s just for a few minutes

You have never let me down. You are always there for me. You are the best part of me, who I want to be, and every time I look at you I can hardly believe how lucky I am to be with you and I hope you know that. — Dawn Metcalf

A guy who genuinely loves you will free his time for you no matter how hectic his schedule is. Remember that there is a big difference between someone who frees his time to talk to you and someone who talks to you during his free time.

There is a general belief that people will always make time for who they want to make time for.

However, as I have gotten older I have come to the realization that sometimes life can get too busy to spend as much time as we would like with the ones we love.

In this context, however, when a guy genuinely loves you, they will somehow find the time. You will be one of their priorities and they will schedule time with you like they would any other meetings or commitments, even if it is just for a few minutes.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he makes an effort to spend time with you, even if it’s just for a few minutes

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6. He gives you compliments and shows his appreciation for all the little things you do for him

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ― Leo Buscaglia

Showing your partner more appreciation is one of the best and easiest ways to ensure that a relationship stays healthy and wonderful over time.

When a guy genuinely loves you and expresses gratitude on a consistent basis, it promotes intimacy and increased connection in your relationship over time.

Most couples don’t stop appreciating their partners as time goes on — they just stop communicating that gratitude, and that makes it seem like the start of taking their significant others for granted.

Fortunately, showing your partner more appreciation is more about little things you can do each day.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he gives you compliments and shows his appreciation for all the little things you do for him.

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7. He embraces your quirks and appreciates you for who you are

Loving someone is accepting them for who they were, who they are and who they will be. — Emma Susanno

A guy who genuinely loves you will act totally natural around you — because he knows that you accept him for who he truly is and he loves being that person with you.

He’s willing to show you a side of himself he doesn’t show to many people.

In turn, he also wants you to be yourself because he really loves you for who you are, he would never want you to be anybody else.

He genuinely loves you if he lets you be the most authentic and best version of yourself because he accepts every special thing and every flaw about you.

An undeniable sign that he genuinely loves you is when he embraces your quirks and appreciates you for who you are.

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