Ladies, are you sick of dating immature little boys?
Does it feel like you’re always the one who steps up and takes charge in your relationships?
If so, it’s about time you learned how to find a grown-ass man to date.
Once you’ve been with a guy like this, you’ll never have the patience to date a man-child again.
Here are 8 telltale signs you’re dealing with one.
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1. He Takes The Bull By The Horns
A grown-ass man is a natural-born leader.
During the courtship, he approaches you, asks you on a date, organises the date and continues pushing the relationship forward. He understands it’s the man’s role to lead, so you won’t have to lift a finger.
In the relationship, he doesn’t wait for you to ask certain things of him. If he sees you’re out of toilet paper, he’ll go to the store and buy some. If he notices you’re feeling down, he’ll make the time to treat you like a princess and lift your mood.
An immature little boy is always waiting for clues that something needs to be done.
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2. He Doesn’t Play Games
It might feel like every guy is trying to pretend he’s not that into you, but a grown-ass man has no time for these mind games.
If he wants to take you for dinner, he’ll tell you straight up. If he wants to make you his girlfriend, he’ll ask you. He’s certainly not the type to ghost you for a few days to dent your confidence. What you see is what you get.
Deep down, he’s hoping you’re mature enough to treat him the same way.
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3. How He Spends His Time
A grown-ass man has big goals and he’s serious about propelling himself towards them.
He will not spend excessive amounts of time playing video games, watching TV or goofing around with his friends. He’s rarely numbing himself with drugs, alcohol or mindless hedonism. Not when there’s a world that needs to be conquered.
This means he also won’t have all the time in the world to see you. That can be frustrating for some women, but it’s the lesser of two evils. Most women would rather date this guy than a bum who smothers them with attention.
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4. His Standards
A grown-ass man will be picky when choosing who he spends his time with.
It’s not enough to be a pretty face with a nice pair of legs. He also wants a woman who is an asset to his life. Someone who’ll make his future brighter.
If you’re not a grown-ass woman yourself, he won’t hesitate to walk away and find someone more suitable.
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5. How He Reacts To Drama
A grown-ass man has been through his fair share of dramatic experiences. These have made him stronger and more emotionally mature.
He’s not the type to lose control of his emotions when shit hits the fan. Instead, you can rely on him to keep a cool head and make a smart logical decision.
When you lose your temper or break down into tears, he’ll be the rock that helps you come to your senses.
Of course, that doesn’t mean he’s going to let you walk all over him. If you cross a grown-ass man’s personal boundaries, you can expect him to let you know straight away. He’s not the type of guy who’ll tolerate disrespect just because you’re pretty.
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6. How He Reacts To Conflict
Disagreements are inevitable in relationships, but a grown-ass man isn’t the type to lose his temper over petty things.
He’ll usually have the patience to see the argument from both sides and find the best way for both parties to move forward. If you can learn to approach disagreements the same way, there’s no reason an argument should ever come between you in a relationship.
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7. He Doesn’t Need A Woman
A good woman brings a lot of great things to her man. Love, inspiration, unwavering support, companionship. Maybe she cooks mouth-watering dinners and ensures he always comes home to a clean house.
A grown-ass man appreciates everything his woman brings to the table. But the truth is: he doesn’t need any of it.
He can cook for himself. He can keep his house clean. He can motivate himself and handle his own emotions. He’s an independent man — and that’s what every feminine woman really wants.
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8. He Does *This* At All Costs
A grown-ass man will do whatever it takes to ensure his woman stays safe.
When danger emerges, he won’t think twice about protecting his woman and moving her out of harm’s way.
If a situation becomes violent, he’ll take the beating of a lifetime before anyone lays a finger on his woman.
That last scenario might sound hyperbolic, but any man who leaves a woman to fend for herself is not a man at all.
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If you already have a partner who embodies the traits of a grown-ass man, treat him like the king he is. Men like this are harder to find these days, so let him know you appreciate him.
A grown-ass man rarely asks for much in his relationship, but it’ll mean a lot to know that you respect the work he puts in.
And if you enjoyed this article, check out my list of 12 Undeniable Signs You’re In A Power Couple.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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