On T.V, relationships are magical, and they barely require any work. In real life, most find it a struggle to live together as a happy, functional couple. Most times, It seems difficult to synchronize with your partner and develop romance with busy lives.
This “keep-the-romance” problem becomes nearly impossible when you have kids or other people to take care of in your house. A busy life will shock even the strongest bonds if not wisely monitored.
That’s why giving your couple room in your day to look at each other for a minute or synchronize and tell each other about your schedule is crucial for the long-term survival of your romantic connection.
Below are a few ideas on how to achieve that. The main goal for these ideas is to have a shared moment where you can bond while being productive in your day.
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Schedule Some Time Before Waking up for Snuggling
Do you remember how it felt to ask each other about your night when the couple started? That should never go away. Waking up for a snuggle session and ask each other about the night is a subtle way to care about your partner.
“My boyfriend Christian is amazing! Every morning he sets his alarm 30 minutes early so we can cuddle.” ― Lucky H.
You don’t have to wake up in panic just at the sound of your alarm unless that’s your preference.
You can ease your body into waking up while having some quality time with your partner by scheduling a long pre-waking up, in bed hug. Just feel and enjoy each other’s presence as a couple before worrying about the rest of the world.
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Say “I Love You” to Each Other and Remind Yourselves Why You Do
Sometimes couples assume that the other knows already they love them. That is great, but it also takes less than a minute to remind your partner how much you love them.
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.” — Sophocles.
You should communicate to your partner that you love them. And they should reciprocate that. The morning is likely the best time to feel special before all the action of your day.
My boyfriend and I have a routine where we ask each other who we love and reply with our names. Then we repeat together that love is important.
It is crucial that you start your day by whispering to each other some “I love you-s” because having someone tell you they love you every day is why you came together in the first place.
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Read a Spiritual Text Together and Share About It
It is very tempting to go for your phones in the morning and trigger worries just as you wake up.
But instead of phones, my partner and I read a daily bible chapter in the morning and share our thoughts.
“I find that reading scripture as a couple is soul grounding, and as a by-product, we get to stimulate our ability to focus on a worthwhile task every day.” — Emilien.
You can read a spiritual text, review theme-based mantras (depending on a common goal), or any thought-provoking text that will nourish your spirit and strengthen your belief system.
It is crucial to keep this practice lite and have room for discussion.
Such reading solidifies your beliefs and creates an identity as a couple. And as you share your thoughts, you work on your communication and grow as a team.
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Pray or Meditate About Current Problems in Your Lives
As a team, having a partner you can share your problems with and work together to solve them is a blessing. You need support for your problems, and your partner should be the go-to person for that.
“Again, I tell you truly that if two of you on the earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by My Father in heaven.” — Matthew 18:19
Taking time in the morning to pray about your partner’s problems is romantic and caring. It also shows you are together in the middle of a problem. They don’t have to be or know the solution. They just have to be there.
In my relationship, we have gotten a lot of insights and miracles on challenges we had as a couple or individually by praying about it in our mornings. Thus, I believe you can seek a higher power through meditation and prayer to come to your aid as a couple.
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Address and Evaluate Individual and Couple Goals
Many people want a Michelle and Barack type of couple situation. I mean, they want their partner to be like a rock for solid support as they attack their goals.
“All I want to be able to do is to support you a lot and to encourage you to be the best you can.” — anonymous.
Discussing the progress and achievements of your goals with your partner is motivational. Also, a romantic couple should be a safe zone where one can be vulnerable and talk about difficulties and roadblocks.
Give each other a few minutes to express ideas about your goals. I’ve heard of couples that schedule presentations about their goals and how to meet them and discuss them, just as shareholders would go about running a business.
There is nothing sweeter than growing and achieving goals with your soulmate. That’s why there is a popular saying that behind every great man, there is a woman and vice versa.
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Get Sweaty Together and Clean up Together
Part of a couple needs to stay together for long is good health, and exercising is a good way to stay healthy. But, it is no secret that working out can be less fun if you have to drag yourself to the gym all the time.
So why not use your partner as an accountability partner to get some good exercises in the morning. Just do a quick 30-minute fitness session every day at home.
“When we try to exercise alone, we can feel isolated and uninspired; together we can achieve our fitness goals” — Felicity Luckey.
You can incorporate fun things like dance workouts or virtual reality cycling in your exercising routines.
After having fun while staying healthy, you can continue the fun by showering together. As you help each other get soapy, you can sweeten up the mood by complementing each other’s bodies with caresses and playful massages.
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Prepare and Eat Breakfast Together
Usually, busy homes get breakfast in transition as they commute to work. This makes your morning moments feel like an escape mission. How about you give yourselves the luxury to have a calm, non-rushed breakfast.
“My wife and I have breakfast together, sitting on the front porch, side by side on the love seat. Even if it’s just for 15 minutes, we have our coffee and talk about plans for the day and watch the birds.” ― Steve T.
I think organizing yourselves to enjoy a few calm minutes is a free luxury they every couple should give to themselves. This can be possible if you divide up the required morning chores and help each other free up time for a breakfast moment.
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Help Each Other With Morning Responsibilities and Chores
The mom traditionally takes charge of all the necessary routines for getting kids ready for school for couples with kids. But, it is much efficient when both partners weigh in for such parental responsibilities.
“Couples who are happier share family and parental responsibilities. Working as a team in the morning builds connection and relationship happiness that carries through the day.” ― Dr Kurt Smith.
It frees up more time when the burden of morning house chores is distributed between the couple. You will also build the team spirit essential for a solid couple.
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Appreciate and Compliment Each Other
Whether it is for the outfit or recent achievement, it is always nice to give a compliment to your partner and make them feel special.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” — Leo Buscaglia.
After being a couple for a while, partners always tend to forget that they used to boost each other’s moods with compliments. Or, in some cases, take the compliments for granted.
My partner and I got the idea of always saying our appreciations for each other (at least one big or even small thing) from watching Young Sheldon.
In one of their episode, they portray how thoughtful it can be to tell someone you love what you appreciate about them. We tried it, and it is very powerful. It feels more encouraging to do things in your relationship when you know your effort is appreciated.
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Conclusion
A couple’s morning routine is a great way to solidify the team spirit in your relationship. You can have the luxury of a smooth morning by incorporating the above advice points in your morning life.
What I can testify about is you will feel a difference when you start tackling the morning with your partner.
You also noticed that most of these tips are not productivity-oriented. The purpose of these tips was mainly to help couples spice up their mornings with subtle romantic actions.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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