A Cup of Self-Esteem, Please

Wouldn’t it be great if every day, before bed or upon waking up, we had a nice warm or chilled (depending on preference) cup of self-esteem? It would be that easy something, even more so for us women, who are born neurotic, live neurotic, and many die in the same cycle of ups and downs.

One day we wake up looking beautiful, and the next, like a Hollywood zombie with huge dark circles, terrible skin, and wondering, “What am I going to wear today?” “Why does nothing look good on me?”

Once, I read somewhere that our self-esteem is like an elevator that goes up and down. Today you’re feeling okay, and someone tells you how much weight you’ve lost and how beautiful you look. Immediately, it’s as if someone pressed the elevator button, and you’re going up! Your self-esteem has reached the top, and a new sparkle appears in your eyes…

Then, half an hour later (or less), you bump into another person (usually, someone unpleasant) who says how pale and sickly you look. You rush to the mirror, look at yourself, and the worst part: you believe it. Down, elevator, I’m heading to the basement!

Do we have self-esteem issues? Yes, we all do. We have more because we spend most of our time listening to what people have to say about us and agreeing with them.

We are so fragile and vulnerable that we go up and down at lightning speed with the utterance of any word that comes from another person. We care so much about others, about what they’ll say, if they’ll love us or reject us. We live to meet people’s expectations! What about ours?

I agree it’s not easy to feel good every day. It’s not easy to always look in the mirror and think you’re perfect and that all those magazine models and TV actresses don’t influence your life, that the media doesn’t dictate the rules you should follow.

We are persuaded, influenced every day until one day, I finally find myself.

When I meet myself, with what I am, what I like, what I appreciate in myself, I’ll find not only the balance for a healthy and stable life but also the miracle of true satisfaction, of true happiness in feeling good, of being okay with myself and with the world!

While that moment of balance hasn’t arrived yet, while my Gurus still say I lack “discipline and Awareness,” I’ll need to have a few cups of self-esteem to see if it stays where I want it to always be: at the top!

How about a cup of tea?

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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