Control is not an illusion.
Choose power over passivity. Don’t surrender because some things are beyond you. You are more than a spectator. Participate.
Things You Control
1. Mindset & Inner World
- Attitudes
- Beliefs
- Self-talk
- Interpreting events
- Focus
- Optimism or pessimism
- Openness to learning
- Values
- Nurturing hope
- Choosing gratitude
- Managing envy
- Expressing curiosity
- Whether you stay curious
- Reflecting on your actions
- Excuses
- Trying to control
2. Communication & Relationships
- Words that come out of your mouth
- Tone, volume, and timing
- Listening
- Responding to criticism
- Speaking with kindness or judgment
- How you treat others
- Showing empathy and compassion
- Standing up for what’s right
- Giving others the benefit of the doubt
- Apologizing
- Pursuing reconciliation – Forgiveness
- How you talk about others when they’re not around
- Responding to others’ needs
- Responding to opportunities
3. Personal Discipline & Character
- Habits
- Follow-through
- Work ethics
- Seeking help
- Taking responsibility
- Saying “yes” or “no”
- Seeking feedback
- Challenging yourself
- Acting with honesty
- Keeping your word
- Setting boundaries
- How you prepare
- How you respond to failure
- Forgiveness
- Pausing
4. Health & Lifestyle Choices
- Diet
- Bedtime
- Exercise
- Rest
- Spending discretionary money
- How you handle disappointment
- Pursuing enjoyment
- Expressing creativity
- Managing your digital presence
- Managing expectations
5. Time & Energy Management
- Free time
- Who you spend time with when you’re not working
- Protecting time for what matters
- Personal goals
- Commitments
- Maintaining your personal space
6. Contribution & Growth
- How you use your talents
- How you pursue personal growth
- Adapting to change
- Contributing to your community
- Whether you’re a giver or a taker
- Celebrating successes
You shape your future.
What are you going to control today?
What did I miss?
Let go – 4 Remedies for Exhausted Control Freaks
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Previously Published on leadershipfreak with Creative Commons License
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