There’s a song lyric that goes: “The feeling of missing someone is like drinking a glass of cold water, which then drips down as hot tears.”
They say love often ends in sorrow.
In real life, everyone may have some regrets deep down. Some people, even when apart, still miss each other.
If someone truly loves you, they won’t forget you.
Not long ago, a friend of mine sent me a letter like this:
We dated for seven years, went through long-distance, and spent the best years of our youth together. But in the end, we broke up because of dowry issues. His parents didn’t quite approve of our love, and he listened to them, choosing to abandon me.
When we parted, maybe we both felt sad, but we couldn’t say goodbye. After we split, I actually missed him a lot. Remembering the moments we shared, I realized I truly loved him. No matter how he treated me in the end, I felt willing to give my all for him.
Many friends advised me to move on, but only I knew that letting go of someone I loved for so long was the hardest. We didn’t unfriend each other after the breakup. We still kept each other on WeChat. I saw snippets of our life in her Moments.
I often couldn’t help but try to contact him, but he never replied.
During the time apart, I lost over twenty pounds. That was when I truly understood that I couldn’t live without him. I thought about winning him back, but no matter how humble I was, it was futile. Maybe he really stopped loving me.
Even after the breakup, many people pursued me, but I felt no one could enter my heart. I wanted him a lot, but I couldn’t tell him.
I’m sharing my story to make everyone understand that when two people are together, cherish each other. Once you lose someone, they may not come back. I hope each of us can bravely seek our true love because regretting love lost is too late.
Cherish those who accompany us, don’t wait until they leave to regret.
Listening to her story, maybe everyone felt a touch. In real life, everyone has different thoughts about love. Those who truly enter our hearts are unforgettable. When you miss someone to the extreme in a relationship, you might exhibit the following behaviors:
Constantly wanting to contact the other person
Those who truly loved each other can’t let go because remembering the moments and beauty of life together makes them tear up. Some people, even when apart, still think of each other and have the urge to reach out.
This kind of life is torment for us. Good love leaves us with beautiful memories. Some people separate due to various reasons in life. We all have expectations when it comes to love.
Losing someone causes pain. Some people part not because they don’t love each other but due to external factors. Even after a real breakup, they can’t forget each other. Longing is also a way of showing love. When you miss someone immensely, it’s a sign of love.
Unable to accept a new relationship
Su Shi once said: “I wish we could grow old together, admiring the moon from a thousand miles apart.” This is what everyone hopes for.
But for some, missing someone lasts a lifetime. If you deeply loved someone for a long time and they suddenly leave, you will surely never forget them. We all have expectations and memories of love. Many people date for seven or eight years, only to break up in the end, leaving regrets.
Love can be cruel like that. Sometimes, even two people in love may not have a perfect ending. If you miss someone to the extreme, it’s hard to accept a new relationship because you can’t face this fact and can’t open up to someone new.
Many may seem carefree when facing love, thinking love fades away. But in reality, we all approach love with a pure and innocent heart, like children.
Those who truly loved find it hard even to be friends. When you can’t forget someone or feel a barrier, starting a new relationship won’t work well. Only when you’re healed from the past can a new person truly be comfortable. If you can’t forget someone, don’t rush into a new relationship. If you truly miss them, bravely reach out. Regardless of the outcome, you won’t regret trying.
Zhang Xian once said: “Love is timeless, hard to sever, hearts like intertwined threads, with countless knots.”
Longing for someone is because you still love them. Your heart can’t forget them. When facing love, each of us has our attitude. Longing is just one way of expressing love.
Many say they’ve moved on but deep down still love. How can you forget someone you truly loved? Not loving anymore is just self-deception.
If you show the above behaviors, you surely still love them. If it’s true love, pursue it bravely. Even if you risk repeating mistakes, don’t miss out again.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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