Aim for long wins and failures will be inevitable part of that journey
How many of us do that? I’m sure there are very few.
As a wise man said, sure shot formula of success is QUICK failures.
Why are we so afraid to fail?
Why are we not encouraging failure instead?
Celebrate, if your teen wins…. Celebrate, if your teen fails….Celebrate his/her participation and effort.
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I always tell my child “I don’t care you get zero or hundred in your exam as long as you know where you went wrong”
See we shouldn’t aim for quick wins — they are meaningless, there’s absolute no learning in these wins…
Aim for long wins and failures will be inevitable part of that journey and what’s interesting is failures bring along with them the GIFT of immense learning. Isn’t it?
My child is learning cricket. During one of his matches, he told me “Mamma, Captain wanted me to bowl 4th over but as my economy was so good, I said “No!” I immediately corrected him that this was COMPLETELY WRONG on his part. Even if his economy was getting affected with that extra over, this was the challenge he should accept and be ready for any failures he may get in the due course.
This is exactly the problem.
We are so heavily invested in those QUICK WINS that we are completely forgetting the long game, which is play more, get better, fail, learn, get better and play again.
Remember, LATE WINS are more sustainable ones
Late Wins only come by FAILING often
Late Wins only come by FAILING often and LEARNING
Late Wins only come by FAILING often, LEARNING, implementing your learning .
So, the next time your child come back home with a long face for scoring less in SOL or any important exam, have dinner outside- celebrate and show him it doesn’t matter to you (parent) because you know he worked for the exam.
I’ve seen parents saying the same to their teens, however, their words and actions speak different languages. Even though their words are “That’s OK.” but sadness on their face and follow up questions like how much your friend scored etc tells entirely different story to their teen.
Clearly that’s not OK to parents and teens get that very well.
Parents, by doing this, you are discouraging your teen to fail.
By doing this, you are discouraging your teen from taking action again. Isn’t it?
And that’s exactly where you are greatly affecting your teen and unintentionally spoiling his future 🙂
Internet is full of researches and studies that proves the above argument of celebrating failures, just google “Celebrate failures”
Play a long game by NOT focusing on quick wins, your response actions and words on your teens failures should speak the same language and you can do that by CELEBRATING FAILURES just like you celebrate successes.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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