Arianna Jeret swaps thoughts and tips with Dwight Hurst on The Broken Brain Podcast.
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Dwight Hurst of Innovate Mental Health Solutions is an absolute mind-field of energy, invention and clear thinking insight. He was recently kind enough to invite me onto his Broken Brain Podcast to chat about communication and high conflict divorce.
Among the many issues we discussed, here are 4 key points to consider:
1. Ask questions open-ended questions in order to better understand what is happening for your child when he or she expresses sadness about your divorce.
2. The cause of a high conflict relationship is at least one high conflict personality. Typically one partner is “reason-able“, and the other partner is not.
3. It is crucial to recognize that a high conflict partner is unlikely to change. Expecting differently only continues old habits, setting you up for false surprise and disappointment.
4. No matter how badly the other person victimized you during the relationship, you also have work to do in understanding your part of the dynamic — namely, figuring out why you allowed yourself into that relationship in the first place so you don’t simply fall into the same pattern with the next person you fall for.
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