Prospective fathers are affected by miscarriages, but there is a lack of support for them.
From trey1963 in response to A Dad Talks Openly About a Miscarriage and the Effect It Had on Him:
Too often miscarriages are seen as only affecting the mother……with a minimum of empathy for the prospective dad. Did it 4 times between #1 and #2 plus fibroid surgery and basic fertility treatments (Gonal-F) Wife was a mess and I had to be the strong one…….lack of support from my wife and others damaged me, being set aside as a unimportant second class person,expected to supply empathy in quantity while receiving almost none. A very hard lonely road to travel.
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“I have much empathy for men who have had no choice as to his child being aborted”.
So do I. That’s a terrible horrible emotional black-hole of a place to be….. There maybe no realistic possible fix to that problem…… just to survive and move on.
Of course it affects the dad. Dad’s have dreams too. But let’s be honest here and look at the bigger picture. Abortion has made it clear that the unborn is no more then a clump of cells. We’ve become a callous society that’s very much minimized the value of the unborn. 48 million abortions have made it clear, hasn’t it? I have MUCH empathy for anyone who has lost their child through miscarriage but let’s be clear, the technical term for a miscarriage is “spontaneous abortion.” I have much empathy for men who have had no choice as to his… Read more »