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You may have been told there’s no use crying over spilt milk,
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but what if that’s wrong?
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Yeah, right!
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All tears are produced by the lacrimal glands,
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located above each of your eyeballs.
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They continuously supply the tear fluid
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that’s wiped across the surface of your eye each time you blink.
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Excess fluid drains through the tear ducts into the nose,
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which is why you get snotty when you cry.
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There are three different kinds of tears.
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Number one, reflex tears.
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These happen when something gets in your eye, like dust or onions.
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Tears build up to flush the irritant out.
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Number two, basal tears.
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These tears are always there.
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When your eye starts drying out, like if it’s very windy,
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you’ll produce these tears to keep the cornea, the surface of the eye,
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well lubricated.
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And number three, emotional tears, or what we call crying.
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These are caused by the limbic portion of the brain,
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which controls emotion, memory and arousal.
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But why do feelings make us cry?
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All tears contain enzymes and proteins
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but emotional tears are different.
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They also contain hormones like pain-relieving endorphins,
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the big daddy of pleasure-causing chemicals.
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That’s why you can feel so good after a big cry.
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And when we’re in high-stress situations,
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crying may help to lower the levels of stress in the body
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by getting rid of stress hormones,
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as well as activating the parasympathetic nervous system.
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That’s a system that slows your heart rate, helps you rest
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and feel calmer.
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According to researchers at the University of Tilburg
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in the Netherlands, watching a sad film
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could actually improve your mood, but only if you cry.
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To test this, I’m holding the first showing of the Feel Bad Cinema Club
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where we’ll be watching some tear-jerkers.
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The Dutch study concluded that if a participant cried during the film,
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they were first left feeling depressed,
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but 90 minutes later they reported that they were in a better mood
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than before they watched the film.
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I feel relaxed and calm.
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Tears were rolling down the cheeks.
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It was uplifting. I felt like I’d had a good release.
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I feel like I should have cried but also I didn’t.
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Once I’m over it being said, I feel better, I think.
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So if you cry, it can leave you calmer and in a better mood
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than before, but what about when we cry around other people?
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Does it just make them uncomfortable?
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Humans are social animals and tears act as messages between us.
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When someone cries, it’s easier to tell how they’re feeling.
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For example, babies cry to let us know something’s wrong.
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And in adults, tears emphasise how strongly we feel
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about whatever is making us cry.
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Tears can build relationships too. Helping someone when they’re crying
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can break down barriers and bond us more closely.
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On the other hand, if someone felt embarrassed or alone while crying,
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they’re more likely to say that the tears made them feel worse.
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People who had support from friends and family when they cried
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often say they feel better afterwards.
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The same is true when people feel they gained valuable insight
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from shedding tears.
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Crying can be a great healer, stress reliever
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and even good for bonding with friends if you do it right.
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So, if you want to have a good cry, don’t hold back.
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