The Friend Zone. It’s a place that strikes fear, frustration, and eye rolls into almost every man around the planet. This is especially hard for kind men or men who know they could make great partners if only given the chance.
So how do you get out of the friend zone? You need to be direct and cast beating around the bush to the wind.
Intentions are everything
Be clear with your intentions from the start. Women respect that. If you’re straightforward, she will have the opportunity to see if that is what she wants or not, and she will be able to give you clarity right away. This keeps you from getting labeled a friend and also tells you if this connection is worth pursuing.
Date don’t hang
If you want to hang out with her, instead of saying “hang out”, ask her on a real date—and take charge with it. Too many men are doing the casual hang out thing not realizing this puts them into the friend zone. Many women don’t find it sexy to just casually hang out. They want to have experiences and deeply get to know their potential significant other. If you want a romantic connection, ask her on a date.
Become the anti-pretend-a-friend
Act as though she is already your partner. Don’t act like a friend. Show her what being with you would be like by inviting her to gatherings, dressing up, making an effort, opening doors, and being chivalrous.
Own who you are
Confidence is sexy. Be fully in your body and bring your full presence to the table when you are with her. There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who is fully present with her. Get off your phone, take away your distractions, and give her your full attention.
Boundaries are sexy
Don’t be a pushover. And don’t get that confused with being a jerk either. Women respect men who know who they are and know what matters to them as far as values and what they stand for. If something is important to you share it, and don’t just agree with everything she says just because you like her. Hold your boundaries and respect hers.
There are so many reasons why a woman may put you in the friend zone. She may see you as a buddy because you haven’t been direct with your intentions, she might not be ready for a relationship right now (that is also something to respect if that is the case), and lastly she may not be interested in you in that way.
Whatever the reason is, if you are clear about your intentions and show up fully from the beginning at least you will have clarity. And if she is interested in you, then it’s game on!
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