Those who love you are afraid they will not give you enough; those who do not love you are afraid you will want too much.
To love or not to love is not always obvious.
But these three things, men will usually only give their beloved.
01 time and energy to accompany
The most extravagant person in the world is the one who is willing to spend time with you. Everyone’s time is valuable, giving you time is like giving you his own world.
A man who loves you is always willing to spend time and energy on you.
But some men always excuse themselves to be busy and be absent when you need them.
Some men have a lot of sweet words on message; in reality, there are very few real actions.
Although you are in love, he may maintain a detached attitude towards you; making you feel more lonely than when you are alone.
The best love is long-term companionship.
If a man is stingy with his time and energy, always busy and never free, then he doesn’t love you either.
02 necessary respect and consideration
Reliable love is inseparable from the necessary respect and consideration.
When a man loves you, he cares about your feelings and respects your wishes, instead of using a disrespectful attitude, calling you, and despising you.
Serena had met such a man before.
All the housework seems to be her obligation, no matter how much she does, she can’t get a word of concern from the other party.
Every time she wanted to express her opinion, she would be blocked by the other party. “What do you know?” and “Men speak, women don’t interrupt” are like knives, stabbing her heart.
Gradually, she couldn’t tell whether the two were lovers or master and servant.
One side is high, and the other side is humble. This kind of relationship will not go far, and can only be left with pain.
Only a man who knows you is not easy, understands your joys and sorrows, is considerate of you from the heart, and respects you can truly love you.
03 the title of wife
Some people have been running in love for seven years and still can’t wait for the result.
At first, the man said to focus on work first, and you also expressed support. But a few years later, the man still showed no sign of letting go.
Even if you take the initiative to mention that you want to get married, you may get distracted by the other party with various topics.
In the end, you found out that your boyfriend was having an affair with another woman, only to realize that it was your wishful thinking to be with you for seven years.
A man who loves you will try his best to marry you, give you the title of wife, and promise you a better future.
Instead of using various reasons to prevaricate you, while enjoying your goodness with peace of mind, maintaining unclear relationships with other women, consuming your youth, and deceiving your feelings.
Such a man only enjoys love, but does not want to be responsible. He cannot give you the future you want. If you leave as soon as possible, you will not be hurt.
However, if you have discussed marriage and decided it is not good for the both of you — that is another thing all together. Mutual decisions–made in the best interests of both parties and talked about openly and honestly–are always better than unilateral ones.
The person who truly loves you may not be good at words, but his actions will not deceive you.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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