The principles of a truly wonderful marriage are pretty universal. How would you and your spouse answer these 20 questions?
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Are you a great husband? Do you have a great marriage? How do you know? What would your wife say about you? What would you say about her? Are you sure?
I dare you to take this quiz to see if you are in a great marriage, a good marriage or the kind of marriage that people belly ache about to their friends and people at work.
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So how do I know what makes for a great marriage? What makes me an expert? I am man who has lots of experience being married. I was married for 32 years to my beloved wife before she passed away and I became a widower. I am now married to an amazing woman for almost two years. So I have almost 34 years of successful real life marriage experience. The key word here is successful. I am very proud of that. So based on my experience I am offering you the questions I use to check up on how I’m doing in my own marriage.
I dare you to take this quiz to see if you are in a great marriage, a good marriage, or the kind of marriage that people belly ache about to their friends and people at work. Answer these questions honestly or the answers don’t count. If you give a false answer, a buzzer will go off at our secured grading center in New Mexico and armed troops will come to your house. (OK, not really, but be honest anyway and just answer yes or no.)
#1- You communicate on a regular and consistent basis with your spouse.
#2- You communicate what you need and you ask them what they need.
#3- You feel your emotional needs are being met by your spouse and you are meeting theirs.
#4- You have activities you do together on a regular basis (hiking, golf, travel, etc.)
#5- You have goals written down as a couple.
#6- Both of you are faithful to your marriage vows.
#7- You are not worried about your spouse ever being unfaithful.
#8- Your sexual needs are being met by your spouse.
#9- You never say anything negative about your spouse to other people.
#10- You share similar faiths or belief systems.
#11- When you have a rough day your spouse gives you emotional and moral support.
#12- You are still attracted to your spouse.
#13- You have fun when you are together.
#14- You do small romantic things for each other.
#15- Household responsibilities are divided by both parties in a way that is that are acceptable to both people.
#16- You respect your spouse and treat them with respect.
#17- You make your marriage a priority in your life.
#18- When you have arguments, you are able to resolve them constructively.
#19- You compliment your spouse on a regular basis.
#20- You support your spouse during times of adversity.
Count the number of “yes” answers and score 5 points for each one. Obviously, the perfect score would be 100. In looking at your score, if you are in the above 80 category, great job and congratulations. If you are below 80, well I think you have some work to do. Both of you do. If you are below 70, red alert — you are in some trouble. Call for help.
I think life is too short to go through life in a marriage that is just “O.K.” Come on now; you deserve to have joy, love, passion, grace and respect in a loving relationship. It makes life so very sweet.
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Have your spouse take this quiz and compare notes. Talk about where you are as a couple, and where you would like to be, need to be, should be or long to be.
I think life is too short to go through life in a marriage that is just “OK.” Come on now — you deserve to have joy, love, passion, grace and respect in a relationship. It makes life so very sweet.
The rest is up to you, it is possible to have a great marriage. I have learned a marriage is just like any other living entity; it has to be fed and taken care of in order to thrive. So what are you going to do now? The choice is yours.
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This post is republished on Medium.
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