Here’s Something Women Might Not Know About Men

Ladies — I want to share something with you that you might not know about men.

Working with men I’ve heard a lot – from being almost murdered by his partner to not seeing his kids for almost 2 years to being molested … to depression, emasculation and questioning his worth and value.

Doing what I do gives me massive insights into:

a) How much men struggle and don’t let on – to anyone.
b) How careless women can be with a man’s heart.
c) How much men WANT to please women and take care of us … but only ever become bitter and jaded when women belittle, criticize and resist his efforts.

We all know the suicide rate is higher in men than in women. Because men have to suppress so much emotion that it quite literally kills them.

And while I’ll never claim to know what it’s REALLY like to be a man because I’m not one, I’ve come to understand this so much.

Including how I’ve hurt men. I hear day in day out stories of men putting up with a woman like I’ve been in the past.

It’s very sobering. And inspired me to do lots of inner work to minimize my projections and maximize my understanding.

And while it’s a man’s job to do his own inner work, empower himself and become High Value … it’s our job to build our men up.

If we actively choose to be in a relationship with someone, then it’s our job to support and love despite him not being our version of the ‘perfect person’ – a tag that obviously even we can’t live up to.

Most men crave love and connection.

Most of them tell me they don’t want to be players … they just want one amazing woman who loves and accepts him for HIM.

And I know I get frustrated with the whole harassment at the pub or online thing … but I also know that deep down THIS is what these men are craving (and really, when I get butthurt about it, that it’s my issue) … they just don’t know how to express it in a way women respond to.

So if you ever espouse any ‘man-hate’ or ‘man blame’ look within yourself and ask why – because most men are just responding to what you’re putting out.

I avoid man vs. women arguments at all costs … you know those ones about who has had it harder?

I think we’ve all got our struggles.

And the best way to overcome those struggles is to work together … not in competition.

Ains 🙂

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