This time, it’s 20 strangers undressing. There’s still something new to see.
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Earlier this year, we got to see what happened when twenty strangers were asked to kiss for the first time. Filmmaker Tatia Pilieva returns with a new video that is equally artful and compelling. Yes, there is also an ad for the upcoming Showtime series, The Masters of Sex at the end of it.
For some, seeing this will make for some nice eye candy. Others will watch this and smile at the endearing awkwardness of the couples shown. Many will enjoy being let into an intimate moment between two people. Those in relationships may be reminded of a few things they’ve forgotten along the way.
Undressing is foreplay and foreplay is sexy.
When you’ve been together for a while, it’s easy for sex to become routine. You know what one another likes, you develop a dance and perfect it over time. Sometimes that connection and awareness of one another increases intimacy and helps couples feel closer. Other times, it contributes to a disconnect as couples put themselves on autopilot.
Strangers took their time. They were careful, and cautious. Slowing things down can make for good foreplay. A stronger connection at the beginning of sex can increase the intensity and connection during and after sex.
Eye contact can be a sex act.
My favorite thing about watching these couples was the amount of eye contact the couples gave one another. Many times, as couples find themselves in routines and familiarity, eye contact gets lost. Couples stop taking the time to really look at one another. They miss the opportunities to appreciate and see the nuances in their partner’s features and expressions.
Eye contact can be a powerful aphrodisiac. For those of you who struggle with verbal communication and opening up about feelings, a few seconds of eye contact can communicate the important things that are on your mind and in your heart. Your partner will see, feel, and experience, your desire for them. No words necessary. You’ll also be able to see your partner’s desire for you and that’s just as important of a moment to take in.
Playfulness and fun can lead to greater intimacy and hotter sex.
In the awkwardness of this new moment, many of the strangers featured giggled and laughed. You could see their personalities shine through and you could see their partners move in closer. The pairs connected on the silliness and it helped them become more comfortable with one another.
Trying anything new sexually for the first time can be awkward and uncomfortable. It’s easy to become self-conscious and perhaps avoidant as a response. However, trying new things in and out of bed increases excitement, sexual interest, and sexual satisfaction. Consider leaning in to the newness of the moment and allow your nervousness to shine through with laughter and giggling. Trying new things can be fun. Tuning into that will help you connect with your partner on a deeper level.
Intimacy and sex are not the same thing.
What most surprised me about this video is how physically close the couples got to one another so quickly. They were in each other’s personal space. They didn’t undress one another from an arm’s length away despite having only just met. They didn’t move away from that intensity. They stayed present for it. That physical closeness seemed to increase the intimacy and comfort between the pairs. Like eye contact, this was another way the pairs developed a connection.
Despite the actions of undressing, there was stillness and a focus between the pairs that the filmmaker was able to capture. Again she captured intimacy and vulnerability between the strangers. Couples can learn from this. They can get closer, enter the physical and emotional space of their partner, take their time to focus on increasing intimacy and connection, and then use that for a more satisfying sexual connection.
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It makes me regret not pursuing acting and going to law school instead. As far as what a couple can learn, it depends on their age and amount of time together. When you remove the element of novelty and reach a point where naked isn’t your best look, a video showing sensual dressing might be preferable.
So people should be ashamed of their bodies if they don’t look how others think they should look?
Thank God none of them were funny looking!
We have way too much of that on the Internets these days, and it’s really gotta stop!
Not as endearing as the kissing one. Plus, it was reputed that in the kissing one that they were all hired models. Are these all hired actors and actresses?
I would also like to point out that all the people in this clip have nice bodies and were conventionally attractive. But then again, we already know that the only people that should be having sex are the ones that have good bodies. At least based on our cultural standards.
Nice…but why are they all relatively attractive people? It feels like an ad