The Good Men Project was founded in 2009 to have an ongoing worldwide conversation about the changing roles of men in the 21st century. It happened when a writer and Venture Capitalist, Tom Matlack, asked a question he could not answer: what exactly is the role of a “man” in today’s world and what makes him “good?” We didn’t realize that conversation would be so difficult—nor did we realize the tremendous influence we could have on our culture by opening up that conversation. The conversation about men is the conversation about everything, and ours has evolved into a conversation about co-creating the type of world we want to live in together.
We’d like you to join the conversation—and in this case, the conversation about sexism. Or, more pointedly, how to #StopSexism. Here’s your chance to become an active participant in the the conversation, and have your words have the potential to reach over 2.5 million people each month.
Already have an idea of what you want to write about? Jump here to our submissions portal. Not sure where to start? Below are some ideas. NOTE: We are only looking for posts from people who want to actually #StopSexism, not from those who want to argue about whether it exists, or worse, perpetuate harmful stereotypes.
1.) We spend a lot of time talking about ‘toxic masculinity’. But what is non-toxic masculinity? What does it look like? How would the world be better if that were the norm?
2.) How does the belief that men are superior harm both men and women?
3.) How do you raise children to be non-sexist? Is it better to be ‘gender-neutral’ or ‘gender inclusive’? Gender neutral might say that there is no such thing as gender, it’s an artificial construct and trying to minimize all references is the best way to get past the harm that outdated gender stereotypes create. Gender inclusive, on the other hand, might acknowledge the genders, but place equal emphasis on being both masculine and feminine (and everything in-between) for both girls and boys. What other parenting tips do you have to push past sexist child-rearing?
4.) What is the link between sexism and violence? How does it escalate? Some examples might be that men who think they have a right to be ‘head of the household’ also think it is ok to uphold that right through what we call domestic violence. And we also see a pattern in in mass shootings, where the shooting perpetrators have often have been accused of domestic violence before the shooting. Another example of escalation is where a refusal to want enthusiastic consent in sexual interactions can lead to actual rape.
5.) How can men be great allies in the fight to #StopSexism?
6.) What happens when you are caught between “boys will be boys” and “man up”? You are told it is ok to have the complete abdication of responsibility (“Hey, boys will be boys!”) to the total ownership of responsibility (“Man up, will ya?). How does this create confusion in boys, especially those on the threshold between boys and men?
7.) How can enthusiastic consent make for the best sexual encounters ever?
8.) Is there a difference between what women consider a good man to be and what a man considers a good man to be? If so, how do we bridge that gap?
9.) That’s patriarchy! How did female sexual liberation lead to male entitlement?
10.) How the word “No” is the bridge between sexual assault and sexism in the workplace. And how abusers make sure it a hard word to use. (Read Lisa Hickey’s article on this subject here—but we’re always looking for multiple viewpoints.)
11.) How will a more expansive view of masculinity help #StopSexism?
12.) How does sexism perpetuate the stereotype that men and women can’t be friends? How can we eliminate an abusive system that tries to limit the number and types of friendships we can have in the world?
13.) Why don’t we believe women?
14.) How does pop culture continue to perpetuate sexism?
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