How Did I Know He Was the One for Me?

My husband and I have been together for 3+ years. Not a very long time, but long enough to know that he is perfect for me. When we are together, I always feel like we are catching up on lost time. In the first month of us being officially an item, he told me “I wish I met you sooner. I feel like I have so little time left in this life with you.”

It left a deep impression on me. I thought about the average life expectancy. We have passed the halfway point when we met. If we are lucky, we can grow old together. I appreciate just being alive with him every day since then.

That was why it was so easy to say yes to him at a picturesque vineyard overlooking the Pacific Ocean and surrounded by mountains when we were vacationing in New Zealand. We just knew we wanted to spend our lives together.

I have been through enough relationships to know if someone is right for me. Through trial and error, happiness and heartaches, something never felt right for me until now.

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We share the same values and priorities

I noticed how important family and hygiene is to him. Sounds funny, I know. How he makes time to have dinner on weekends with his family is just like how my family makes time for breakfast together every Sunday. About the hygiene bit, he spent the night at my place once and I noticed how he washed his hands and feet like how I would always wash mine after going out. Lucky for me, he also knows how to cook, clean and tidy up after himself. Nothing tells me more about our chemistry than cooking together in harmony in the kitchen — How could he read my mind so easily?

We like to spend time with each other

We can just lie side by side on the bed doing nothing but read and I will still be happy. We went for a trip to Bali in our early days together and discovered how we like to eat, drink and spend time at the beach. We also like to explore new places together. Whether it is drinking soju and savouring melt-in-your-mouth Hanwoo beef barbeque in Seoul, eating good Malaysian street food, or finishing a bottle of expensive wine, we just love eating good food and drinking together. When two feels better than one, life gets better indeed.

We respect our differences

Although we have our similarities, we understand that we are also 2 individuals with different wants and needs. He gives me space when I need my alone time or time with family and friends and I like it when he focuses on activities outside of our relationship, like breaking a new score in golf or reading a book that I normally would not. Like any normal couple, we argue when our viewpoints differ and we learn to forgive and forget easily too. We do not force each other to believe in the same thing and we love and respect each other for our similarities and differences.

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Luck brought us together. But knowing we were meant for each other came from experience. I’ve learnt that when you love yourself enough to be true to your needs, a true partner will understand the same too. In return, you will discover how effortless it is to reciprocate the same.

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This post was previously published on Hello, Love.

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