How Do You Know He’s The One?

They say when you know, you know.

Well, what if you’re intuition is off or you don’t trust yourself, or even worse — what if they’re the one for you but you aren’t the one for them. It happens and it sucks. For lack of a better term. But what happens when that saying is true?

You won’t think of anyone else, you won’t look at anyone else (in that way) Nobody is interesting to you. The cute accountant you see at the coffee shop every morning with his sleeves rolled up and crooked tie, has no appeal to you anymore.

You’re Careful About Who You Tell and How

My friends knew about every first date I went on except this one. I was quiet about it. I didn’t want to ruin it by allowing them to speak any unwanted thoughts. When I told them it was Christmas and we had already been dating for over a month.

Certain information is withheld from the beginning. After all, you want them to like your new partner just as much as you do. This is why “they” tell you not to tell your loved ones all your partner does wrong. Because they might not forgive him, even if you do.

You Can Do Nothing With Them

I remember the first “do nothing” day. I was nervous that I was going to be boring, or annoying, or a little of both. But instead we sat in silence and worked across the table from each other for a few hours. He turned on the TV, I took the dog for a walk. He cooked dinner, I cleaned the kitchen. We ate together with laughter and intuitive conversation.

This is when I realized that I can do life with him. My every day life tasks weren’t as grueling. They just got done with the occasional kiss on the forehead and more distractions than usual.

You Can Do Anything With Them

Target runs, go to the bank, dinner, coffee, all of the outside things you like to do? You want them there. It doesn’t matter how long you’re doing it or where it is. You want this person next to you. It’s common to want to be around your partner non-stop and in the most mundane or exciting of things.

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Whether they’re your forever, or your right now. The one can be hard to find. One thing is for sure. If you stop looking for perfection, perfection finds you.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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