Oy vey! Bryan Stevenson, one of my all-time favorites, asked this question in his book “Just Mercy.”
I didn’t think: “Who sent them in there to do that?” I didn’t think: “Trauma.”
I did wonder about hate and the things it makes people do to one another while I just showered in the sweet rain of moral indignation. I was a bonehead — even if I was only nine years old.
Watching TV: Cowboys and Indians, Cops and Robbers. Earthlings and Aliens. Nazi’s and the rest of us. There were good guys and there were bad guys. It was crystal clear.
But the wonderful and awful thing about growing older is the burden of moral ambiguity. So this whole Muslims= Evil really gets my goat, so to speak.
The wonderful and awful thing about growing older is thinking about what it is that you really want.
Do you want to solve a problem or do you want to be upset? Do you want to blame someone or do you want to grieve and mourn? Do you want to prevent mass shootings from happening or do you want to demonize killers?
The act of killing is demonic. The killers? Their motivations? Their circumstances we don’t really know.
Individuals shroud their own frustration in Nationalistic, Extremist diatribe. The pathology of hate is a receptacle for untreated mental illness. If we take on the hate as a response to hateful acts isn’t that just a little bit Kooky?
At a recent funeral for a young man who was murdered several eulogizers said: “And God will Avenge their death.”
The problem here is that sometimes people decide they are God and take the avenging on themselves.
My wonderful friend Dan Ephron
does the important job in his book Killing a King of showing how things can progress to the point where people who see themselves as a member of a victimized collective, take license to interpret God’s wishes. Aside from the arrogance — this narcissistic grandiosity kills: Prime ministers, people bowed over in prayer at a mosque. Hateful killing knows no class, race, or geographic boundaries. At the end of the day, it always means the same thing– the people they killed are dead.
Sometimes it seems like every killer thinks they are on a mission from GOD. I say let’s leave it up to God to decide what God wants to do!
“How does the enemy serve my story? This is the interpretive key survivors utilize in their interpretation of traumatic events,” said of my partners in efforts to thwart intergenerational trauma, The Reverend Gary Mason, in Belfast Northern Ireland.
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Originally Published on The Bulletproof Therapist
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