How to Allow Masculine to be Masculine

How do we allow men to be men?

More importantly, how do we allow for the masculine and feminine energy to compliment one another instead of slamming into each other?

By understanding them. How a man’s brain works differently than ours. How his actions might mean something different to him than what we “believe” it to be.

I just had this conversation with my daughter: Mom so and so won’t let me open an envelope or package. He has to jump in and take over.

We’ve had this discussion before. The difference is how one guy does it out of kindness and generosity and the other (the one she is complaining about) does it to be in control.

How amazing that she notices it, the difference. This, of course, isn’t just men, women also can do this. I’m expressing her experience with boys.

The expression of masculine energy wants to fix things, solve things, make our lives easier. That is a good thing. They are not doing it to suggest “we can’t do it ourselves”.

Now just like the guy my daughter has the issue with, notice the difference between how “controlling” feels and “masculine energy” or helpful problem-solving feels.

I love it when my man (because I’m heterosexual) comes up with a solution to a problem I have. I love that he spent the time and energy to think of me and want to make my life easier. I don’t get upset that he is trying to “fix” it. I adore it! From the perspective of opposite energies attract; this can, of course, be in reverse. We all have a blend of masculine and feminine energies.

Like my daughter, it is good to notice when they are doing it because they adore you or out of a need to be in control.

I bet if you were ballroom dancing with a someone, you’d be able to sense when your partner was leading or needing to “control” you.

Just notice it!

Ponder it.

Possibly appreciate the leading energy instead of taking it personally as a judgment on your ability to lead. Appreciate each difference as if it is complimentary.

Not a competition!

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