How To Be the Most Understanding Partner in a Relationship

Nobody wants to be treated badly or feel like they are not loved. It’s terrible when you got into a relationship because of love and suddenly it’s not there anymore.

It can to a point in a relationship where all you have are memories and hopes that things will be better.

Relationships remain to be one of the most complicated things on earth, everyone is trying to guard their heart.

Breakups are awful and I hate to see anyone go through them. Sometimes you see two people full of pride and they give up on each other in the name of independence and some other issues. Having done that, both of them go sad and with pain. If breaking up was supposed to make things better for you, why do you spend sleepless nights thinking about them?

Breaking up is awful and the reason why you feel pain during a breakup is because of love. You’ll never be sad for someone you didn’t love or care about.

Don’t Be So Focused On Proving You Don’t Need Someone

There’s only one problem with people, everyone wants to prove how they don’t need each other. Everywhere on the internet, you’ll be told how you don’t need your partner to be happy or to feel loved and it’s true but if you love them you deserve a chance to be together whether you need them or not.

Being in a gaslighting relationship doesn’t mean you leave, it only means some things have to change.

Have you ever asked yourself what real love is? Think about it real hard until you have an answer.
Someone once said that real love is when your partner says and knows in their heart that they are loved and not you saying you love them.

When you are shown love you see the love and you feel it. From my research, 80% of people in relationships think they are not loved. Among them is your spouse or ‘the love of your life’.

A Simple Question Which You Should Answer

You have a spouse whom you love so much and suddenly they are to drugs or too much alcohol, they’re addicted. If given a choice, whether to stay and help them get back on course again or leave for someone better who is not an addict and has their sh*t together, who would you go for?

If you would leave your love because they don’t have everything together, don’t you think it’s better they lost you in the first place?

If they can help in rehab by a total stranger and get better, what about you, who love them so much? Think of one bad trait you have and ask yourself if your spouse is judgy and doesn’t complain.

It’s not only addiction to drugs, but we all also have toxic habits and certainly, no one is holy.

When you choose to leave someone because of their flaws, put yourself in their shoes. Would you have rather they left you or help you become a better person and go through the situation together?

Choosing to go through everything together will be a very memorable and sweet moment when you look back.

Life is not only about the times you went to the beach together or had good s*x. It is about those times you wanted to leave and stayed instead. I know you would appreciate such a person too, so become one.

PS: being through many relationships doesn’t make you more experienced to be a better partner, It makes you more experienced to not keep a relationship.

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