Having needs and wants in a relationship can feel vulnerable. Ideally our partner is the safest person to express them to, but sometimes we worry the most about a partner’s reaction, because their opinion of us matters. We don’t want to become undesirable or abandoned, so it can feel risky. Today’s guest talks about how to create the safety to share your share needs and wants.
How to Express Needs and Wants in a Relationship: Show Notes
We all have needs and wants in a relationship, but it can feel tricky to figure out how to express them. Many people are afraid of feeling needy, being a burden, becoming undesirable, or someone leaving because we are “too much.”
What have you done with your needs and wants? Have you expressed them? Hidden them? Some of both?
Today’s Practicing Love podcast guest, Junie Moon, is a love coach. She is the CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud, and creator of the podcast by the same name. She’s also the author of the amazing book: Loving the Whole Package – Shed the Shame and Live Life Out Loud.
In our important conversation we discussed…
- What our shadows are, and how they hijack our relationships if we aren’t conscious of them
- How to make asking for our needs and wants less scary
- Creating safety for yourself and your partner in your relationship
- Rewiring yourself to be able to see the person in front of you, rather than your wounds or projections
- How to build trust and where to find its foundation
- The golden tool you can’t live without in relationships
Junie Moon is a woman who has overcome incredible relationship challenges and found the light within the shadows. I trust her and the depth of her heart and work.
If you’re a woman in midlife and think any struggles in your love life could be related to menopause or perimenopause, check out my recent article on how this does not have to kill your love life, and how it can actually be something that helps you be cherished and supported.
If you’re a man in a midlife relationship and wonder if any of your struggles could be related to your partner’s menopause or perimenopause journey, check out my recent article: What a Man Needs to Know About Menopause to Save His Love and Sex Life.
Humans and love are complex. I’m here if you need support. If you have questions about midlife love, or any phase of your love life, reply here to let me know.
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Junie Moon, CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud, a Global Love Mentor, Best-selling Author, Women’s Empowerment Leader, and Certified Shadow Work® Coach, has supported thousands of women over the past 30 years to claim what is their birthright: the freedom to be and love themselves without apology. When women experience this freedom to love themselves without apology, they attract life-long Next Level Love and experience an extraordinary second half of life.
Using her unique heart-centered dating strategies, coupled with powerful mindset tools, Junie helps women in midlife to magnetize their ideal partner and experience Next Level Love. Along the way, women embrace this precious stage of life with confidence, playfulness and ease.
Junie has been seen on News 12 New Jersey, Blog Talk Radio, Authority Magazine, Thrive Global and in the Newark International with her film Shed the Shame that she produced and starred in. She’s also the International Bestselling author of Loving The Whole Package: Shed The Shame and Live Life Out Loud, International Award winning speaker and host of the successful Midlife Love Out Loud podcast. Junie has shared the stage with Sheri Winston, John Gray, Sage Lavine and other ground-breaking thought leaders of our time.
Previously Published on Shana James Coaching
