After we start a relationship, or even before it starts, we always want to confirm whether he really loves me.
But a man’s words are deceitful, how can you know his true intentions?
Although there is no way to see his thoughts, there are still some behaviors that can be verified.
If he contacts you at certain times, it means you are important to him.
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When he is happy, he wants to cheer with you
There is a colleague in the unit who has strong business ability and is quite loyal. Everyone praises him.
As expected, he ranked among the top in the assessment and review this time and got the opportunity to be promoted.
On the day when the appointment notice was issued, his colleagues urged him to treat them to a meal to celebrate.
He, who has always been generous, was uncharacteristically generous and blurted out: “Today, the ghost will treat you. I will go home to treat my wife.”
That day, he booked a restaurant before leaving get off work, and he and his wife had a meal that they would not normally eat.
The celebratory meal for colleagues was also arranged the next day.
To be honest, everyone envied his wife. A man thinks of you first when he is happy, and your position in his heart is self-evident.
It is not to show off in front of you, but simply to share his happiness with you. This is both a trust and a dependence.
Because of full trust, he knows that you will definitely be happy for him; because of sufficient dependence, when he wants to cheer the most, he can’t think of others, but only think of you.
There are many men in life who want you to be with them when they are suffering, but want you to let them go free when they are enjoying themselves. They can share the hardships but not the happiness.
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When he is tired, he wants your comfort the most
The things that men don’t want to say to others include the most depressing words of loss and tiredness.
In front of other people, he has the self-esteem of a man, and he can’t say these words no matter what.
As the saying goes,
“Men don’t shed tears easily, but they haven’t reached the point of sadness.”
In fact, there is another saying that men don’t shed tears easily, but they haven’t reached the point of intimacy.
In front of the most intimate person, he doesn’t have to care about the self-esteem he has to support, and he doesn’t have to make an effort to hide his true emotions.
I saw a question on the Internet: “Have you ever seen a man cry in front of you?”
A netizen said: “My husband is more easily wronged than me in front of me, and he often sheds tears, but I never laugh at him. Because when the family encounters storms, he always stands in the front.”
In front of outsiders, men don’t want to be seen as vulnerable. But in front of you, he never hides his tiredness and wants to get your comfort. The reason is that you are the closest person in his heart.
When he feels pain, only in front of you, he doesn’t need to pretend.
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He will be by your side whenever you need him
There is a line in the movie “He’s Not That Into You” that is particularly touching:
“With a mobile phone, speed dial, and even voice dial, why doesn’t he have time to call? He’s not too busy, he just doesn’t like you that much. If he really likes you, he won’t forget you. If he forgets, it means he doesn’t care about your disappointment.”
A man will only become extremely busy and disappear when you need him when he doesn’t have you in his heart.
A girl shared her story:
“When I was in school, I fell and sprained my foot, and you happened to be next to me and carried me to the infirmary;
After work, I came back from a business trip at night, and you happened to be near the station and sent me home;
When something happened at home, you happened to be on vacation and accompanied me to deal with it so that I wouldn’t be in a hurry.
In fact, I know that it’s not really a coincidence, but when I need you, you always make yourself “just” there. “
Any coincidence is actually premeditated. Think about it from another angle, why does a man always stay by your side when you are at your most miserable? Why else, but because he cares about you.
Because he loves you, he always thinks of you first in many moments.
In moments of great joy, he can’t help but be the first to tell you and share his inner joy with you;
In moments of loss and sadness, he can’t help but seek your comfort, because he believes that your words can best understand his feelings;
In moments of need, he can’t help but be the first to appear, always by your side to prevent you from being alone.
These moments are not coincidences, but deliberate!
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Hi, I’m Karl Walker. I write about love, relationships, and more mindfully. To see my stories pop up on your feed, I’d love for you to follow me (Karl Walker). And, to have stories sent directly to you, just click below.
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