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No doubt that confidence is a real blessing. It is something that can help you in many spheres of life including career and, yes, relationships. Even if ‘handsome’ is not the attribute that can be applied to you, if you believe in yourself and radiate confidence, you’ll be admired. However, there are some situations in which even the most confident of us get overwhelmed by nervousness and unleash their insecurities. The first date can be a good example of a stressful situation that makes so many men lose their confidence. If you manage to control your feelings and only a small bit of your insecurity reveals itself, your date will likely consider it a kind of cute. But if a lack of confidence becomes too apparent, it may turn them off.
Here are the most obvious signs by which people realize you’re insecure.
Not looking their in the eyes. Probably, this is the most overt sign of your discomfort. Even if you’re a shy person, you should maintain eye contact with your date in order not to come across as indifferent or insecure. When you look the other person in the eyes, you show your interest and establish an emotional connection.
Talking only about yourself. If a guy feels insecure, he will try to conceal it by dominating the conversation. Of course, a man should keep the ball rolling and introduce new subjects, but when the date turns into his monolog, that’s a problem. Most obviously, he does it to demonstrate his greatness and advertise himself, totally ruining the conversation.
Keeping silent. There is another manifestation of insecurity, contrary to the previous one when a guy doesn’t talk at all and gives the floor to his date. He is so nervous and scared that he prefers to remain silent in order not to say something wrong and put his foot in it.
Don’t start telling them about it out of the blue. If they ask you, answer honestly but in general without going into details.
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Bragging about your income. Some guys think that if they tell their date about their accomplishments, property, and monthly income, it will help them come across as confident. Most people (who are interested in a man’s personality rather than his financial status) will view him as a show-off. So, what should you say if you’re a wealthy person indeed? Don’t start telling them about it out of the blue. If they ask you, answer honestly but in general without going into details. Remember, confident personalities do not boast.
Feeling shy in their friends’ company. It’s very important for a person to see how a man will behave when their friends (especially male ones) are around. If you get withdrawn once they have introduced them to you and feel reserved the whole evening, they’ll be turned off by your reaction.
Suspecting them of something. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and lack of trust. If most of your conversations resemble interrogation rather than a dialog, it means that that you don’t totally trust your partner. Asking about your partner’s life is good but when you want to know everything about them (where they go, with whom they meet), you demonstrate your uncertainty about your relationship that stems from your lack of confidence.
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