Question: I just found out the girl I am dating used to be an escort (favors and all!) I am trying not to judge her for her past but the idea of damaged goods keeps popping into my head. I don’t want to walk away from this as she is the most amazing woman I have ever met but I am a little disgusted by her former occupation.
Answer: well my friend… This is intense! And so is your response! To put the most amazing woman you’ve ever met… Plus disgusted in the same sentence is a lot to swallow!
First let’s be clear on an energetic level that it’s you judging her and not our entire culture who is freaked out about sex, so do a few cleansing breaths to release back to sender any judgment from our culture that is placed on her so that you can think and feel and be aware clearly.
Second, unless you’re super puritanical religious… Isn’t damaged goods a little extreme? I mean are you a virgin? And while she excepted money for sex… Haven’t all of us energetically prostitute it ourselves for sex? We wanted attention or approval or love…yes? Haven’t women used their beauty as a manipulation and haven’t men used their money as a manipulation?
And have you deeply inquired into the reasons for her decision? We have no idea who she was on her spiritual journey when she made this decision… We have no idea how she’s grown… could you look at her with fresh eyes without judgment and be curious instead of in conclusion of her worth or lack there of?
And is it even possible that this idea of energetic prostitution where we sell our soul on some level… Is triggering something and you where are you settled or gave in or devalued yourself on a decision personally or professionally?
What about the point of you that she’s perhaps one of the most awesome experience lovers you’ve ever had and lucky lucky you?
What about the point of you that she loved being a prostitute, perhaps she is one one of the brave ones to be a Courtesan in this modern day… reminiscent of the time when courtesans were the only women who could be educated or learn music or bring meaning to life and awaken a man’s grandeur with their radiance? Could you handle that?
Bottom line I think your point of use or conclusions or judgments… Be they yours or societies… Are in the way if you truly seeing this woman… Because indeed you say she’s the most amazing woman you’ve ever met.
Do your best to clear these judgments or you might sabotage this relationship with the most amazing woman you’ve ever met… And let me know if anything changes… And if you have challenge with this, it’s my specialty to set you free of the past so you can be present grounded and potent in the moment and live beyond other people’s judgments and opinions and create a life that truly turns you on and brings you luscious filament spiritually sexually personally professionally… The works 😉
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