The lessons we teach our daughters about dating will define their success.
This weekend I took my daughters in a daddy/daughter date. It was a new thing for all of us, at least of calling it a “date”. They weren’t so sure what to think at first. When I mentioned what we needed to get ready for, I got a frown and “A date?! I’m not your girlfriend.” I explained how it didn’t have to be that way to be a date. Dads and daughters go on dates all the time. Also, you get to wear your dress and new heels … sold!
My daughters are in kindergarten and a long way from actual dating, but it seems to be the cool thing to claim to have boyfriends. So they talked about theirs. It got me to thinking about the lessons I’m trying to show them about their future, when dating and all the pressures involved become a reality.
Be you and don’t change. If someone doesn’t see the value in who you are, they aren’t worth your time or energy. There will be someone that can’t imagine life without you.
You deserve the very best. Don’t settle for a man that won’t give you his whole heart, even if its still in pieces.
Don’t use a test to see if someone loves you. People fail. Trust your gut. If your gut tells you not to trust him, listen.
If his actions tell you he isn’t ready for a relationship, believe him. Regardless of what he says.
It may not be as popular as it once was, but there are still guys that respect and understand how to be a gentleman.
Boys are dumb and easily intimidated. Don’t give in to the idea that some boy will like you more if he doesn’t know how smart you are. In the long run, you will meet a man who is seeking that out.
Never feel pressured to express your feelings through physical displays of affection. A guy that really cares about you will accept it on your terms. If they threaten to leave, let them, they are going to leave anyway.
Look for love from a place of confidence and security. No person has it in them to complete you. Even if it feels that way in the beginning, it isn’t real and won’t last.
No matter what happens, you can always count on one man.