Nothing is permanent. Relationships come to an end, and connections eventually disconnect. That’s the way it goes. That’s life. Eventually, there is no more energy left to latch onto or emit. The common vibration is gone and so it is time to move on. Again.
Maybe the secret to relationships is realizing that they are all going to come to an end, there will always be a time to say goodbye. Maybe if we were all just real with each other about the way things go we’d get along better.
Look at the way we project our vision all over our most intimate connections, in order to force (and reinforce) this unrealistic concept of “forever”.
Ironically, relationships are navigated by two people building towards… an ending. Yet, the ending of the relationship (itself) is resisted. In this way, love is then used to resist change. To manipulate “forevers” out of temporaries. All of this, to force permanence where there is none.
And never will be.
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We treat forever like a destination.
That is why we have been failing to appreciate the journey of our relationships. We’ve become so afraid of “losing” that we no longer choose to enjoy the moment, to experience. The moments are all we have.
But it’s how we handle the ending of these moments that matter so much to our lives that teach us who we are, and show us exactly what we’re made of.
- Do we fight it or face it?
- Do we avoid it or accept it?
- Do we hold on because it’s comfortable or familiar?
- Do we try to control it by inducing the endings ourselves?
- Do we even know when it’s over?
Letting go is a very brave decision to make. It takes surrendering to trust. And that’s what we do when we experience an ending — we surrender. We give ourselves over to the inevitable with the understanding that all of it flows, the joy and pain.
Understanding that Spring will come again. Understanding that we will love again (and again) because the reality is nothing is permanent. And love, just like us, is always changing, as every end we experience prepares us for something new.
Our endings teach us, constantly, that endings will always be inevitable —and completely unavoidable. And why should they be? The endings in our lives are where we evolve. The ending is, in fact, the best part.
That’s the secret.
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This post was previously published on Change Becomes You.
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