Full disclosure: I’ve been around the block a few times myself. When it comes to my partner’s previous sexual partners, I tend to default to the old Army way: Don’t ask. Don’t tell.
This isn’t always the case. I’ve had some partners demand to know and be a bit put off that they weren’t my first (or second or third). Have you told your partner what number they are? Would you if they asked?
Is your sexual history a point of contention in your relationship? How are you dealing with that? Have you ever ended a relationship because your partner couldn’t get over your past?
Do you want someone to tell you how many have been there before you or would you rather not know? If they refuse to fess up, is that an issue for you? What do you think it means if someone won’t tell?
What DO you want to or need to know about a new partner’s sexual history, if anything?
If your partner has a problem with your list, is it the number of people on it or something else? Specific people? Is it because your list is longer than theirs?
Maybe it’s you that has a problem with your partner’s list. Why is that? Do you fear you won’t measure up?
What do you think it says about a person if they have multiple sexual partners? Is there a magic number that’s too many? What is that number and why?
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