Men Are Great Partners, If They Have These Three Traits

Relationships are complex. Many tips have taught us to play games to get an edge over each other in love. It leads to heartbreak and hurt.

A great man has unlearned the toxic lessons of his fellow men.

He doesn’t want power and submission.

Movies, books, and advice taught women to play hard to get. Women often tie their value to how hard they can make a man work to prove himself to them. What can he buy? How long will he chase me? When does he make time for me?

When a man works for a woman’s love, his resentment grows. They dislike women and the men most ladies attract.

Game skipping doesn’t mean a man isn’t interested. That’s a trauma belief.

If a guy is a superb partner, he will have these three traits.

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#1. He will want returned favors

Only parents experience the feeling of unconditional love.

A great man asks favors of you.

Most women think men are after one thing: sex. But a great man wants sex and more. How can you spot the difference? A man who chases despite you not reciprocating any affection or desire wants only one thing.

Think about Erica and Safaree. When that relationship began, she wanted nothing to do with him.

The twist was Erica’s father died, and to her, it felt like her dad had sent Safaree. Before that, Safaree had to deal with plenty of drama to get Erica’s attention. Safaree thought he had to fight off many guys to be with her.

He was a man on the chase. When a chaser gets what he wants, his unconsciousness catches up with his actions. Soon he becomes a hurt person looking to inflict emotional damage on the woman who made a simp of him for only sex.

A great guy will take the lead in a relationship. He will shower the woman in his life with attention and affection. But will want her to reciprocate and show him kindness. Not only is the form of sex. But also, in the way she talks and schedules time to be with him.

If the man does not get the reciprocation or if he feels disrespected, he will leave. Unlike the chaser, a brilliant partner’s goal is not sex or revenge. He is after a woman who will also make the relationship a priority.

Always remember. It is natural for humans to want a return of love, affection, and respect. If not, they have another goal in mind. A good man craves love as much as he shows love to you.

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#2. He will add to your life

When I say, “add to your life.”, the usual thought is financial additions. While a woman would welcome this value add, a great partner provides in other ways.

Women are often the emotional ones.

A good man adds emotional stability. He takes care of himself through good health, career, and surroundings. He is sure of himself and does not depend on a woman’s validation.

A brilliant partner doesn’t need to see himself as valuable through his woman’s eyes. He doesn’t need to power trip his lady friend into submission. Instead, he builds the woman up to her full potential.

Why? Because he knows a good woman who feels valued and appreciated will take care of her man.

A brilliant man comes into the relationship with some understanding of himself. Plus, some amount of confidence. The foundation is already there. Everything the woman does only boosts his ego. He is not avoiding hurt by looking to control the people around him.

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#3. He will let go of active trauma and drama

A great guy doesn’t heal overnight.

But they ditch any baggage that can complicate the life they want to build.

A brilliant partner will check out from friend zones and circles with their exes. They want a clean start to see where things will go with you.

These guys are quick to have their words and actions align. You will not question where you stand with them.

Of course, they will have women friends. But they will keep all other love interests at arm’s length.

This change is sometimes subconscious, so he will still ask you to be his girlfriend. Or make a big deal of announcing you as his woman to others. But none of the excitement around the title doesn’t mean he did not see you this way long before the present.

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Thank you for reading this post.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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