When you love someone from your soul, heartbreak is not a simple incident.
It is like waking up each day with a burning pain deep in the heart.
Invisible. Yet so suffocating that it rips away every breath in you.
Questions make your head dizzy, yet no answer arrives. You walk through life corridors with numb eyes and mind, yet no respite seems to come.
Then we realize human love is flawed.
But without it, nothing makes much sense on this Earth.
Recently, someone asked, “Is it easy to love God?”
But the question is not about what is easy.
Because love strips away the mind that asks if it is easy or difficult. And it might seem easy to love an idea that doesn’t challenge you.
Asking if love is easy means the salt wants to dissolve into the sea without losing itself, yet still wants to become the sea. How is it possible?
This dissolution becomes easy in love.
And when it hurts, it feels like dying.
But that does not make human love inferior.
Yes, most people only love superficially.
Caring from a distance that won’t cause them discomfort. Carefully opening only those parts that protect their dignity. Showing strength and hiding what is ugly.
This helps maintain power dynamics.
But a few love from the depths of their souls. Their love seems insane and overwhelms most people who only love from a surface boundary.
And when these people get abandoned, the pain hits the deepest. Throwing into the deepest abyss.
Once, I was on vacation with my then-partner and a common friend (who was a spiritual mentor for others).
The common friend asked, “Why don’t you get married?”
I said, “He does not want to get married.”
He said, “Then play love like a game.”
I was shocked when I heard those words. Game? Love?
My heart only knew surrender and devotion. What is a game?
After a few years, he left me for someone else. Maybe because I didn’t play it like a game at all. Lol.
And when you give yourself so completely to the other, and when they leave, it feels like your heart has been taken out and burned while it still has some breath left.
The pain is unbearable.
And we question why love hurts.
Instinctively, when this molten lava boils the souls, many people close their beautiful hearts because they have cruelly learned that opening means hurt and abandonment. Showing your real vulnerability means being played and smarted out. And you learn people use you like trash when you allow others to see you as you are. When you bow your head, they will cut them out.
Then, love becomes a dangerous word. A dangerous playground where you vow never to set foot again.
But the reality is that love so deep that makes you bow your head before a flawed human being is no less than a miracle.
Love that strips the thick shield of ego. Love that makes your soul vulnerable and shaky is no less than pure.
Yes, unless enlightenment occurs, conditionality will remain, even if only subtly. That is why it shatters our hearts.
But the essence of the divine in that love is unignorable.
Most people are not able to receive and honor that kind of divinity from another person.
When you pour such purity into a terrified vessel, it will crack them. They may bear and hold on to a specific time for a certain limit. But when it burns intensely, they will blame, flee, or break up.
A few people can dissolve themselves in their partners. And only a few people can receive such a dissolution without perceiving it as a threat.
Until you meet those vessels that truly honor you, life will keep breaking fragile vessels that can’t contain your purity.
Your love, vulnerability, and utter soulful nakedness are a blissful gift.
Not everybody can match it. Not everybody can hold it reverently.
Neither your love is at fault. Nor is the other person who can’t match at fault.
It is just that incompatibility breaks under the pressure of such sacredness.
They wanted to protect their individuality and feared the intensity that you showed.
And we unconsciously blame love for our heart-shattering pain.
But it is what makes us human. Its depths make us see our potential.
Once you heal, you realize how rare a diamond you are. And those fingers could not carry your purity.
Dear one, if you felt such intense, soulful love and your heart split, it is not because you are too much.
You gave exactly what you were meant to give, and others simply reached their own limits. Your pain is a testament to the depth and purity of your love.
So, never blame or hide your beautiful heart.
That vulnerability is a rare gift. Though it can feel unbearable, remember, sensitive hearts like yours soften the world and reveal what is sacred.
Don’t disgrace your loving heart.
Because it is a divine tool to rip the ego’s clothes off. It is a delicate thread that shows the glimpse of divinity in the other.
Though pain may shatter your delicate heart.
But the glimpse of divine union in the other is itself a celestial gift that only sages get after years of penance.
Love is not just an emotion.
For sensitive hearts, it is a spiritual journey.
The easiest path that the heavens blessed you with. The smoothest transition from the rigid ego to fluid presence. The effortless bowing of the head.
It happens because you have a soft heart. A heart that is capable of stretching and embracing the other as a whole, without excuses, even when you know their flaws.
And if you are undergoing pain right now, because your vessel broke and they spilled your overflowing love, let this be a reminder —
“You are not too much. You are not broken or insane. Just breathe through the pain that burns your soul right now. Just breathe. One day after another. Let pain flow through your tears and cries. Let the pain go. Hug your beautiful self. Tap your innocent heart. You are divine, dear one. You are rare and pure. People may not see you right now. But let you see yourself through and through. Even if it takes time. Give it to you. Give your love and care to you until you heal.”
I bow to the hearts that effortlessly bow at others’ feet in love. Thank you for being here on Earth.
You are no less an angel walking on these parched grounds. If my words soothe your burnt feet even a fraction, I’m humbled. If my tears as I write this soothe your burning heart even a bit, I’m deeply humbled.
Thank you for your divine existence. 🙇♀️🙏
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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