For so many men the masculine expression of sexuality is hard.
It’s driving, it’s taking.
It’s need-based, released based.
It’s about size, performance.
It’s driven by a model that has trapped men in a very narrow experience of sexuality.
And it’s silence it’s become repressed, suppressed, disconnected.
It’s become angry and emotionless.
It’s a pattern of limitation, of contraction.
We can change the pattern through the body.
Gentle, slow, soft touch.
Through the heart, the heart of giving, the heart of receiving, the heart opening.
We can expand the pattern through energy.
We can expand the pattern with a different experience.
A new experience will create new feelings.
New feelings will give rise to new thoughts.
New thoughts will open the vision, eyes that see more.
A new perspective will create expansion.
Expansion holds elements unexplored, an inner landscape of possibilities.
The world within creates experiences in coherence with its energy.
The sexual shift brings a heart shift.
A heart shift brings a life shift.
Working with the body to change the pattern.
This is the beginning of Quiet Lingam, a practice I offer and teach.
It’s slow, so slow.
It’s gentle, so gentle.
It’s a meditation of receiving.
In the slowness, in the softness is the opening, the release of tension in the body, in the mind, in the heart.
It begins with a space you create.
Warm, comfortable, quiet.
There may be candles, music, whichever elements you wish.
There is a greeting, a heart connection.
There is eye-gazing.
There is breathing.
He lies on his back, you’ll sit between his, legs, beside him, wherever is comfortable.
His hands are at his sides, not touching you, the focus is on receiving, fully, deeply.
You’ll lay a hand on his heart center in the middle of his chest, your other hand resting warmly on his sexual center.
You’ll breathe, together.
With each breath, your hands sink into his body.
Take the time it needs for him to begin to soften.
Take the time it needs for you to become present.
Your hand on his chest slowly moves down his body.
You spread oil onto his body, his thighs, his belly, his Lingam.
Every movement is slow.
In the slowness, he feels.
In the slowness, he can breathe.
In the slowness, he can drift from his mind, from his expectations, from his patterns into his body, into his feelings, into his sensations, into his being.
Your touch, your caress, your stroke, your every movement is slow, is gentle.
You’ll pause here and there as your hands feel the need.
Your touch is on his belly, his legs, the crease of his thighs.
In the slowness, in time, in his softening, his arousal becomes fuller, deeper.
Spend as long as you can in this space.
The patterning of his sexuality may want to brings its heat to the surface.
This is a slow burn.
A fire of substance, of sustenance, of limitless depths to explore and experience.
You’re both patient.
The intimacy is breathtaking.
The pleasure may be new, it may take time to understand it, allow it.
It changes the pattern.
And in time, you’ll go deeper…
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