Some people say if you love someone, you should put them first.
Do everything for them. Forget yourself for them.
But that’s madness, in my point of view.
Because love?
It’s not about losing yourself to prove you care.
It’s not about ignoring your dreams or draining your spirit just to keep someone else happy.
When I love someone, I don’t need to put them above myself to be seen as “loving.”
I don’t need to abandon who I am just to keep them around.
Love, for me, is thinking about my partner while I’m doing my things.
Respecting her. Trusting her. Being there when she needs me.
It’s showing love through action — but not the kind of action that says I don’t love myself.
Not the kind that says I’m empty or desperate for validation.
Because here’s what most people don’t realize:
If you lose yourself in the process of loving someone else, you will start to resent them.
You will start to feel small.
You will forget how to love them properly because you no longer know how to love yourself.
And that’s not love. That’s fear disguised as love.
Real love doesn’t require you to shrink.
It doesn’t require you to silence your dreams or walk on eggshells to keep the peace.
Real love challenges you to grow.
To stand tall.
To become better, together.
So love them, fully. Show up for them.
But don’t disappear in the process.
Don’t let “love” become an excuse to abandon your own life.
Because at the end of the day, you can’t truly love someone else if you’ve forgotten how to love yourself.
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