A very accidental realization happened today. In Chandler’s words, it couldn’t have been more random.
It happens very often that our neighbours let their water tank overflow and we hear the water just wasting away.
We have to go tell them to turn off the knob. Generally, it is the lady who we greet and tell and she rushes with panic to shut it down.
This morning, it so happened that we told the gentleman there about the overflowing water and he laughed and said yes, I forgot about it but now I have closed it.
The conversation just fell on my ear and it suddenly occurred to me, we women very often get flustered over our mistakes, however small or big but men very often wing it like sure, it’s no big deal.
It is not necessarily a gender issue, it surely could be dependent on the person but I have seen more women reacting as flustered and more men reacting as not.
Another incident not so long ago came to my attention while I was thinking about it. A discussion with a male colleague came to the conclusion that it’s okay to get angry, there is nothing wrong with it. It happens with everyone.
When I get angry for no particular reason, my reaction generally is to panic about being so wrong and wonder how I could rectify it, while on the other hand, I see a reaction where it is taken as something that just happens and letting it go.
Made me wonder if it IS in fact a gender thing.
Maybe I am wrong, maybe it’s not a gender thing, maybe it’s an individual thing. Who knows!
But one thing I know now for sure..
When I stop being stuck to my mistakes, there are better chances of me not doing it again.
Stuck bole to? When I can see it for what it is and not what I would want to imagine!
One, because with acceptance, I will know the reason and most probably would not repeat it and Two, panicking only shows that I am afraid to seem human, someone who could make mistakes. So maybe now I will just start accepting the human-ness in me, stop panicking and start letting it go.
For upward Smiling?
Most definitely YES! 💗
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