I’m a straight ally of LGBTQ people. I wasn’t always.
I was brought up in a conservative social and religious environment. Homosexuality was a choice and was a sin. Was against God’s will, and could be cured, taken away. I married, but we were not able to have children. After thirty years in an increasingly sexless marriage, I insisted on therapy—and my wife, at long last, ‘came out’ to me and to herself as a lesbian.
I discovered that I was in want is called a “mixed orientation marriage.” All my wife’s strong attractions in life have been towards other women, not towards me. It seems too late in life (we’re both in our 70s) to look for new partners, and we remain the best of friends. We have a good life together, but there is and can be no shared desire.
That’s why I want to support the move towards greater openness and acceptance and understanding of sexuality and in particular homosexuality.
Why do some LGB people take so long to come out?
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