What men were taught to believe makes them tough, can cloud their ability to make important decisions in relationships.
Men are viewed as strong and tough. They are also expected to keep it together, show and little emotion. I honestly believe that this is a bunch of bull, which ultimately leads to harbored emotions, resulting in dysfunctional relationships.
I’ve had the opportunity to chat with men about certain things they experience in relationships that cause them to hesitate to remarry and/or fall in love again. The one that bothered me the most is a woman putting their hands on a man. A gentleman told me that he felt like such a punk-ass because his wife would slap, hit, throw things and bite him when she got upset and he took it. Well, of course, he took it because hitting back makes him a domestic abuser. The woman is well aware of why and what she is doing. The law is going to be on her side and she knows that just one bruise wins her case. It simply pisses me off that a man can be taken advantage of but there isn’t much help or resources to support them.
I personally don’t view a man as weak for enduring the abuse. People ask all of the time “why does she stay when he keeps hitting her.” The short answer to that is she loves him. Men have feelings too. Not only are they madly in love with their female abuser, but alsosharing with friends or law enforcement that their spouse or girlfriend is beating them canbe quite embarrassing. I feel that if more men spoke up, and raised awareness, lesswomen would feel comfortable taking advantage of the situation.
- Although men are stronger, built differently, they still feel physical and emotional pain.
- It is okay to escape the chaotic situation for your sanity.
- Not fighting back doesn’t make a man weak, it makes him raised well. He understands how powerful he is and makes better choices.
- It is okay to speak up.
- It is okay to be vulnerable.
- No matter what a man was taught about being tough, it is okay to cry when you
- No matter how much bigger a man is than a woman, their hearts are still the same size.
- Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side. You’re just too abused to see over the fence.
- Understand that it is not your fault. Abusers are sick and need help dealing withtheir on inner demons.
Domestic Abuse: abuse of a person by another person with whom the victim is living, has lived, or with whom a significant relationship exists. The abuse may take the form of verbal abuse, sexual abuse, physical battering, or psychological(emotional) unavailability. Abuse is a learned behavior and has an escalating cycle; abusive behavior cuts across all racial, ethnic, educational, and socioeconomic boundaries. —Medical dictionary, By Farflex