Are genuinely attractive people better at asking the question, “What do I find attractive in other people?” and living out their answer?
Attractiveness is more than looks.
Or intelligence.
Or how you dress.
It’s not an exact science.
And it’s not only an art.
The 10 Most Beautiful Things Attractive People Practice
1. You manifest attraction by being what you seek
You won’t be attractive until you master this. You seek confident women but act insecure. You’re attracted to women that are well-dressed or in good shape but do neither. You want love but connect to nothing.
To start being attractive, we must be what we seek. You must behave in a way that manifests the people you want to attract. What you find attractive in others will manifest in being what you seek.
2. You can be funny
There you go. Relax. Say whatever you want. Be authentic. Tell a joke. Be comfortable in your own skin. Make fun of your ability to never put the toilet seat down (or up). If people don’t get your authentic sense of humor, that’s fine.
You don’t want to attract those people that don’t get you anyways.
3. You can be confident
Self-confidence comes from living in a state of constant personal growth. By living in courage and steady in failure, you can deliver what you say you’ll deliver. Build trust in yourself; to work out, to say hello to strangers, to try talking that dime piece at the bar or Whole Foods, to take your shot in the game, to ask your boss for a raise. Confident people ask themselves, “If not me, then who?”
4. You can be kind
Kindness is a behavior, not a God-given talent.
Leaders aren’t born, they’re made.
Empathy and kindness are designed into our species — we just let society condition them out of our being.
Practice kindness, and people will find it easy to be around you. Be empathetic, and it attracts a large portion of people who don’t want to be with a-holes anymore. If you want to over-kick your attraction coverage, this one is huge.
5. You can be curious
Intelligence is multi-faceted. You can be intelligent in one domain or many. You can learn about why birds sing and what species they are, or you can be into current events or politics or the craft of rock climbing. People are naturally attracted to people that are curious about something.
Anything.
Don’t let life pass you by like a dum-dum. It’s not attractive because conversations suck with people that have nothing intelligent to say.
6. You can be open-minded
Open-minded people have more opportunities to connect with different viable, attractive partners. This is simple math. If you aren’t open-minded, you have just cut half the world off from finding yourself attractive. You’ll have to start looking for closed-mind Facebook groups if you want really make some headway in closed-minded attractiveness.
Plus, if you aren’t approachable, no one will approach you. Derrr.
7. You are passionate about something
Passion gets an unfair rap. What is passion other than being able to suffer for something you care about or sticking through something that gives you meaning?
People find it attractive when you can get through the struggle for something you care about doing or becoming. Am I right, ladies?
8. You have the ambition to be something
Do you have a North star? Do you feel obsessed with getting to the top of your chosen mountain top?
This is attractive. Ambition means you care. Ambition means you try. Ambition means you show up when other people stay home.
This type of drive is attractive.
9. You take care of your physical and mental health
People that take care of themselves- mentally and physically- are usually more attractive. How will you care for your partner if you can’t care for yourself? How will you take care of your family? How will you take care of your job? How will you care for your parents when they get old and have adult diapers?
This starts with being selfish about caring for your health, happiness, and mental well-being.
Being fit, mentally strong, and eternally optimistic is attractive. It’s not just your Brad Pitt face that matters, it’s how your eyes shine and your soul resonates that matters too.
10. You’re ready for adventure
You aren’t the type of person that never leaves the house, are you?
Or the guy that only posts photos of himself fishing or flexing to the online dating world?
People are attracted to having a variety of new, fun life experiences. If you never want to try something new, you are probably bored or scared to get out there and try something novel.
No one wants to be with someone that doesn’t like to build their life resume, not just their business resume.
Whether it’s traveling to Venice or hiking through the Grand Canyon, get out there.
People think that’s attractive.
Good luck out there,
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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