The Art of Self-Talk Can Heal You

Like everybody else, I’ve dealt with physical pain many times. To be honest with you, there is no healing method that I haven’t tried before. From pharmaceutical to herbal or energy healing, I’ve tried them all. I’m not going to share which one was better because each plays its own role and most importantly, I’m not a doctor to recommend anything medical. But I can share with confidence that I learned something magical from practicing a method of mindfulness called THE ART OF SELF-TALK!

-wait, what?

Self-talk is the most direct way of communicating with your whole being. You won’t put a tool/person in between to heal you. Instead, you communicate with the pain/discomfort yourself. It can sound silly at first but the results will change your mind.

-I mean, is it really necessary?

Yes! imagine you fell down and hurt your leg, your family takes you to the hospital, you complete your therapy, and go home healthy. But whenever you put a little pressure on the injured leg, you feel the same old discomfort. Sometimes, the pain in the exact area can appear out of nowhere. This is where your body is expressing to you that the pain is cured but not heard and embraced, so it has to remind you again and again. Unfortunately, those who ignore these innocent expressions will have to deal with undiagnosable discomfort for the rest of their lives.

How To Use The Art Of Self-Talk:

To begin, you need to clear all the obstacles against self-love. Otherwise, it will fail you. It’s just like making friends, you have to do it step by step.

If you have been molested, abused, hurt, or did self-harm in the past, especially if you ignored it, you must apologize to your body first and become friends with it again.

The Art of Self-Talk can help you talk to your whole being — body, and soul — like a friend. After all, isn’t your body a friend that does its best for you till the end?

Once you’ve become friends with your body, you can start the self-talk without any requirement. All you need to do is to communicate with it and let your body and soul be heard, understood, and loved so that you’ll see what magic it will bring to you.

Eventually, you will notice how your body will love you back and respect you!

The last time I used self-talk was during a rough training. I was on the treadmill for 50 minutes and I wanted to push a little more to make it to 1 hour but my legs were getting exhausted and I wasn’t sure if I’d make it. So I started talking to my legs and these are the words I said:

“I know you’ve been jogging for minutes, more than our last session and it made you very tired. I’m aware of that and I’m so proud of you for carrying on, to help me get healthier. Let’s just push the limits for another 10 minutes, I’m sure you’re capable of that. I promise to stop whenever you can’t take it but if you make it to 1 hour, that would be great.”

Right after the self-talk above, I felt strong enough to go on, feeling no more numbness or fatigue in my legs. that day, I made it to one hour thanks to my legs and the sincere communication between me and my body. I have used the same technique on different occasions and it worked every single time (unless there was a deeper underlying cause).

This is a delicate bond, we are the only ones our bodies have. so our words and acts mean a lot to them. They need to hear us and to be heard to live happier! to understand this better, we can learn from children. Parents know how their children share the smallest thing with them, be it a heavy book or a watermelon seed they found. the body works the same way, it wants to share its discoveries with us, which it perceives through all our senses. That means our body is capable of feeling emotions as well, as fig.2 topography by PNAS supports the theory.

You can also benefit by creating the same bond between you and your soul if you have unresolved trauma or a passing problem such as focus problems during exams. This technique can save you from failure and heal you thoroughly.

You need to know that spiritual pain takes longer to heal, so you gotta be patient.

If we are the ones who cause, feel and engage with pain, we are also the ones who can heal it. As Rumi says:

“The Cure for the Pain lies within the Pain”

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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