Saying “maybe,” when you mean “no,” keeps false hope alive.
Stop strangling progress with “maybe.”
Avoiding “no” doesn’t make you kind. It makes you deceptive.
Destructive Substitutes for “No”
- We’ll see.
- Let’s see what you come up with.
- Ask me another time.
- Not now (without a clear timeframe).
“Maybe” Leaves Talent Hanging
- If I can.
- I’ll do my best.
- I’d like to, but I’m not sure…
What can teams do with “we’ll see?” Wait.
No one moves forward on “ask me another time.”
“If I can” is selfish, even when you’re sincere.
Slow Death
Indecision paralyzes teams.
Lack of commitment stalls progress.
Should the team move forward without you? Will you feel offended if they do?
Guessing kills momentum.
Simplify
False hope distracts like an unscratched itch.
Keeping your options open causes confusion and stagnation.
Yes or no is simpler than perhaps.
Getting to “Yes” or “No”
- Prioritize clarity over comfort. A hard “no” is kinder than a long “possibly.”
- Inconvenience yourself. You can’t change the world with, “I’m not sure.”
- Commit with purpose. Do what matters wholeheartedly.
- Follow energy. Engage in activities that bring you to life.
- Kill “maybe.” Choose “no” when it’s not a clear “yes.”
- Engage in yes-activities. Don’t dally with “not now.”
How has “we’ll see” hindered you or your organization?
How do we overcome fear of clarity?
4 Ways to Practice the Art of Commitment
The Curse of “Maybe” Forbes
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