Love is a choice, not something that can be forced
Love is a feeling of care and affection for someone unconditionally ,but that love is not just limited to your lover ,it is also the less talked love for our Parents and siblings.
The language of love can broadly be divided into verbal and non-verbal.
One that is expressed through our words and the unsaid love which we project through our actions and care.
There are five ways in which we all receive and give love
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
Words of Affirmation
It is the expression of love through verbal communication using words and sentences. It is as simple as saying You are wonderful or anything which could lead to encouragement. It helps in release of serotonin, which helps in uplifting the mood and dopamine, the feel-good hormone. Words of Affirmation are not limited to our lover but extends to our loved ones, sometimes acknowledging our parents and expressing through words can mean so much to them .
Quality Time
The duration of time you spend with someone is not as worthwhile as the Quality of time you spend with them. For example: When you visit your family or are with your partner, you are physically present but are on your phone or just distracted, it makes the other person feel insignificant in your eyes than the external world. Rather than being truly with them you are escaping the time and space when you have your moment with them. Quality time can simply include deep meaningful conversations, a walk together or just doing activities together which could lead to release of serotonin and oxytocin hormones.
Physical Touch
Physical touch as simple as holding hands can give you comfort and peace as it releases oxytocin, the love hormone which helps in building emotional connection. Sometimes a hug can solve all the problem and melt down all the stress after a long day.
Acts of Services
Doing simple acts such as cooking a meal or helping your loved one get ready are such simple things which can make a relationship richer and fulfilling. These small acts sometimes are more rewarding to us than the ones who receive it.
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. – Mahatma Gandhi
Receiving Gifts
As simple as giving a flower or writing a letter for someone, can create feelings of appreciation and surprise.
Whether it is receiving or giving gifts, the thought put into it is what matters the most.
These five love languages are the ways we can show our love and affection towards others, such small things which we can sometimes neglect without even noticing them, but we all are humans, we learn and grow.
Love is the flower you’ve got to let grow.
It is our choice to let the flower of love grow through our verbal and non-verbal expressions.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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