My discovery
First of all, I didn’t think that I would ever date a man who has a child. At the tender age of 33, I don’t have any children so I was apprehensive about this discovery. I’m here to erase the stigma. Men with children, I simply want to say I love to watch you live! This man of mine puts his daughter first. He creates wonderful experiences for her to thrive in. He is consistent with his words and his actions toward her.
What I observed
When I was in my twenties, I made a list of the qualities I wanted in a man. A man with who had children wasn’t even on my radar. In my case I discovered that men with children can have: More empathy–I watched my partner thrive in connecting with his daughter when she isn’t feeling her best. He is positive, reassuring and tells her like it is. Above all, his daughter comes away from interacting with him, better than ever. Sacrifice is not foreign to him.
Through dating, I’ve watched him give up sleep, his hobbies, and other things all because he wants to put a smile on his daughter’s face. The behaviors that he wants her to have, he models for her. He admits he’s not perfect yet disciplines her, and handles her emotions well. In conclusion, parenting isn’t easy. Connection through dialogue and shared experiences is important to him.
What he is passionate about
He cares about connecting with her mentally, emotionally. He gives her room to be who she is without judgment. These are just some of the qualities that my partner embodies because he is a good father. This is just a small testament to the power of fatherhood exhibited through the lens of a woman who is dating someone who is an extraordinary father.
My newfound joy
Admittedly, once I was introduced to her, I fell more in love with him for these reasons. I’d say that having his daughter’s unconditional love has changed his life in ways that are unfathomable. I hope to one day experience the joy of being a mother. Moreover, watching my dad love me consistently all of these years and in turn dating someone who has a wonderful daughter, gives me hope for all of the men out there.
Encouragement and Thanks
As a result, of your struggle, you will rise. You will endure hardship. If you love hard, you will succeed. You are more than a statistic. You are necessary. To all of the other good fathers out there, I salute you. I am truly fortunate to see love in action daily because my partner takes fatherhood seriously. Here’s to growing and evolving.
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