I sincerely hope you never experience it……
I was downstairs in my office area with a couple of friends, when I realized I needed something from a closet upstairs. I quickly ran up to get it, passing him in the kitchen on the way. “Hi hon,” I said cheerily. “Just grabbing a notepad!” To my utter shock, I was met with the blackest stare I had ever seen. It was as if all the light had vanished from his eyes. He honestly looked like a demon in that moment, and it chilled me to the bone.
Little did I know that this — the classic psychopath stare — was a known thing. Recently a friend was telling me about a similar encounter, saying “You’re not going to believe this, but it was the weirdest thing. It looked like his eyes went black.” Oh yeah, I believe it.
Years ago I was at a conference on energy science with my business partner. Very out on the edge, but fascinating. As a neuroscience expert trained in the scientific method and a devotee of validated research, I am a fan of what can be proved. But as a curious person drawn to trying to make sense of the mysteries of the world, I am also open to that which is, perhaps, potentially true (and maybe in the process of validation).
At this conference, we encountered a team who were exploring whether one could gauge levels of consciousness in a human by tracking the amount of light reflected in their eyes.* It definitely was in the second category (interesting but not proven) and I honestly don’t even recall their research methodology. But when I encountered the psychopath stare, I thought of it again.
And I’ve thought a lot about it since. Whether or not the research is sound, anecdotally, it makes sense. Think about someone you know who makes you feel good to be around. Someone who is light, and positive and helpful. Most likely you will see a sparkle in their eyes. Now think about someone who is in a down and sad place. You might describe them as looking “flat.” What you are seeing is the light going out of their eyes.
And the psychopath? As I mentioned, it is known that their eyes can go pure black when they feel angry or threatened. Or maybe, if you just catch them without their mask in the moment. And honestly, if you see this, please take it as the biggest red flag possible. It means this person can lose access to their humanity and may be capable of great harm.
*At the end of his life, researched into consciousness Dr. David Hawkins was exploring the same thing. I think he sadly passed away before being able to fully validate this, however.
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