The Red Flag Nobody Is Talking About

I have consumed a questionable amount of content about dating and relationships, so imagine my shock when I realized that nobody is talking about this huge, dark red flag.

It’s the people who don’t know their red flags or don’t believe they have any.

This signifies the absence of self-awareness and emotional maturity in a person. If you don’t believe you have any flaws, how can you ever work on them?

Nobody is perfect, and a person can’t have all green and cute little beige flags. There is not a single human on this planet who has achieved absolute perfection, and “the love of your life” you met 2 weeks ago certainly isn’t the first one to break that streak.

This calls for a deep psychological dive into why this is such a giant red flag, in my opinion.

People who fail to see any faults in their behavior have no foundation to work on. These people are usually so confident and charming that you start to wonder if you’ve finally met someone who has it all together. But you soon realize they have an “I am always right” syndrome. They have firm beliefs and rigid habits, which leave little to no space for your beliefs and opinions.

Being in a relationship with a self-declared perfect person is tormenting, to say the least. Every conflict and every problem somehow ends up being your fault. How can you ever be right with a person who is never wrong? This lack of self-awareness isn’t a small quirk you can laugh about; it’s a hazard to the relationship and your sanity.

Look out for this red flag early in dating to save yourself from a ton of frustration. Relationships are about growing together, compromising for each other, and meeting your partner in the middle. Find someone who has the emotional bandwidth to adjust, adapt and grow.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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